NC over the Holidays

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Registered: 05-12-2003
NC over the Holidays
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Sun, 12-14-2003 - 11:51am
I am very much in love with MM...I am single. We used to work together but I quit because rumours were causing problems and he was up for big promotion. I also thought leaving would help me as well. So he just got his promotion and he makes even more time for me then ever. BUT the holidays and all the parties and dinners and plans kept reminding me that I am 2ND PLACE....she gets to go to functions and wake up with him on Christmas. If he REALLY loves me then we should be together....but there are kids (A stepson and a 1 year old). If he left he would have no rights to stepson that he's raised for 8 years.

SO I told him yesterday I wanted a break...atleast through the holidays. No calls, no lunches, visits...NOTHING. He said he understood. So it's day 2....of nothing. For the last 1 1/2 years we have seen each other every day somehow..even if only for a hug at a gas station...and we talk atleast 3-5 times EVERY day. But I'm not all that upset...almost relieved. I feel guilty about that. I HONESTLY, truly love this man and believe he's the love of my life---so why aren't I upset?

I am so confused...if it's easy to get through the next 3 weeks with NC...then should I make it forever?

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Registered: 12-12-2003
Mon, 12-15-2003 - 2:38pm
I feel the worst for single ladies/people involved in EMA's. Good luck with your NC. My only advice is if you choose to live in this type of relationship, be grateful for the time you get to spend together. If you make it through NC, maybe it's not true love...but maybe you just got caught up in the idea of what it could be. You could be so much happier in a relationship with a man who is devoted to you. Give it time. Either "absense will make the heart grow fonder" or maybe you're realize that you deserve a man who does make you his 1st priority.

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