NC Poll

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Registered: 11-19-2003
NC Poll
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Sun, 04-11-2004 - 3:55pm
Would you call your MM even if it means that it might be risky to do so? Even if you did find the strength to call -- will you talk or hang up once somebody picks up the phone on the other end. If it were MM would you talk to him? I am obsessed with these questions right now as you can tell. Honest opinions please.
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Registered: 11-19-2003
In reply to: funnyface03
Sun, 04-11-2004 - 4:33pm
I wouled have to say NO NO NO. Since he has told me not to call, I will not call him. The ball is in court on this one. If I ever were to call, I will never hang up without talking. heh How rude is that? It like those annoying crank callers that don't say a word while you yell "hello heloo" at them.


Edited 4/11/2004 4:34 pm ET ET by funnyface03
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Registered: 05-24-2003
In reply to: funnyface03
Sun, 04-11-2004 - 7:31pm
No. I need him to trust me and if I let my school girl impulses take over and put him in risk of being found out, then he has less reason to trust me. If it's innocent, like work, I will call him, but just because I 'need to hear his voice', I won't. It doesn't take strength to call -- that's what you want to do, so all you're really doing is looking for rationalization to feed him. What takes strength is not to call.

Lucky

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Registered: 03-07-2004
In reply to: funnyface03
Sun, 04-11-2004 - 7:57pm
Funnyface, why did you post to yourself, were you just asking a question in the original post asking for points of view, and saying you yourself wouldn't do this???HMMMM, I am confused. My answer would be no, I wouldn't call, and hang up. I know my MM has called me, got my answering machine, but didn't leave message, I know this because when he has gotten to talk to me he's said he was afraid to leave a message.
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Registered: 11-19-2003
In reply to: funnyface03
Sun, 04-11-2004 - 8:01pm
Anything wrong in finding out other's point of view even though I know what I will do in the circumstances??
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Registered: 04-01-2004
In reply to: funnyface03
Mon, 04-12-2004 - 1:34am
I can call til the pigs fly home ... his cell phone is out of the service area

I left him a message yesterday saying Happy Easter, but he won't get it until May

He usually does all the calling - I am more of a hard to get kind of girl myself LOL

But I try to respect the fact he needs space - or if he's on vacation give him that time

to enjoy that - what he has with me is a bonus and he knows that and a wonderful bonus -

I wouldn't want him to run the risk of calling me if I were the one on vacation or having a NC moment - so I respect him the same

Kikki

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Registered: 11-19-2003
In reply to: funnyface03
Mon, 04-12-2004 - 1:34pm
THanks for all your replies. Luckyme, you post made a lot of sense. Thanks
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Registered: 03-22-2004
In reply to: funnyface03
Mon, 04-12-2004 - 2:03pm
It is different for me since OM is single and I am married but if he had asked me to not call him for some reason I would have to respect that. He respects that he cant call me after 5 on weekdays and on weekends he can't call unless I call and let him know that it's OK for him to call. He has always told me I can call him whenever, even at 3 in the morning...he's such a sweetie.

Love

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Registered: 09-16-2003
In reply to: funnyface03
Mon, 04-12-2004 - 2:10pm
Love, there are some days I would love to call him at 3AM, but how do you manage it with H around. My H has hears very well and is a light sleeper. :( But you know what don't make it a habbit to call at 3am unless emergency otherwise you will labelled as booty call. :( I know btdt..
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Registered: 04-02-2004
In reply to: funnyface03
Tue, 04-13-2004 - 6:45am
I would never, ever call him if I knew it would put him at risk - unless it was an absolute emergency and I had absolutely no other option whatsoever. I know it's not fair to make blanket statements, but I would bet that for many of us in these EMA's, we are aware of basic ground-rules : when you can make contact/when you can't. You have to respect them because in doing so you are respecting your EMA partner and the constraints of their situation. Emergencies are different perhaps, but generally speaking why would you ever want to put your EMA partner in a situation which you know could compromise them?
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Registered: 03-23-2004
In reply to: funnyface03
Wed, 04-14-2004 - 3:54pm
I agree.....do not call. As much as you want to hear his voice, who

knows, he probably has caller ID. You do not want to start WW III

I also love my mans voice, but would NEVER consider calling him.

We all want to call our man, but best if not done.

Be strong, be confident he will speak with you soon.

Men love a confident women..there is nothing sexier than

confidence...

Good Luck,

Bunny