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| Sat, 12-20-2003 - 12:02pm |
On the 3rd day of us not talking he said he was so nasty and mean to his wife because he was miserable and had scorching headache over our dilema...says she kept nagging and he said he snapped and threatened her physically. I can't stress enough that he's NOT a violent person but he says he can't stand her but loves the kids more then anyone or anything. She told him she wasn't happy and he wasn't happy and that he should move out. When he confronted her next day about leaving she said she wasn't serious. Now she's being nice--cooking things, but he says it's all a little to late for her to be nice. He says after awhile things will go back to normal and they'll be miserable again. He says the closer we become the more he knows he married too young and the wrong one.
I hate this situation....I am 33 and I would never even LOOK at a guy with a girlfriend let alone a 10 year marriage and 2 sons...but I LOVE him and he loves me.
I have to deal with the fact I can't end this yet..I love him and everyone around his marriage that's even friends with her says their marriage is doomed.
I wish I could go back to the day we met and I would've turned a different corner I sware.

You and I sound like we have a lot in common.
I am single and 30. He has been married for 15 years and has 2 kiddos. He tells me everyday he loves me. We too did the NC but our lasted for 2 weeks about 6 weeks ago. Both of us are going on seperate vacations for New Years and will have 2 weeks of NC and are both dreading it.
The biggest joy I have though is that when they all get back from NM, he is going to tell his W about me and since she already kind of knows about me he feels sure she will end it and if she does not, he is going to end it with her.
:-)
B
Edited 12/20/2003 2:09:29 PM ET by zookittie
And, btw, I too am having an on again/off again affair for two years.
Think about it...pay attention....be smart.
dharma (who used to post on this board as san franny or franny....for any old timers who are still around).