Nearly 2 years

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-25-2007
Nearly 2 years
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Sun, 02-22-2009 - 1:05pm

Hi Everyone:


I formerly posted here regularly, but now confine the discussion of my affair to my email buddies, all whom I met on this board.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-08-2007
In reply to: zerofuture
Sun, 02-22-2009 - 2:47pm
hi. i can totally relate. not thinking i would still be in my affair 2 years later. like yourself i was thinking this would last at the most from 2 to 6 months. like yourself it started purely physical, but has grown to be so much more. we relate to each other as you said persons. right now i'm trying to help him in something he really loves to do. i confide everything to him, as he does me. in the last year, we have grown very close. i can honestly say i love my AP dearly. it is a wonderful supplement to my life. i wish you luck in your continued happiness in your affair. sometimes they are very hard on the heart.
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-05-2007
In reply to: zerofuture
Sun, 02-22-2009 - 2:50pm
I remember you Zero. I'm glad that things have settled down for you, and that you are happy with your life. I think you should hang around more. It's nice to hear from more "settled" affair partners, and I think you'd have some wisdom to dispense. :)

Some would say that I fell from grace... but I didn't.

Proud to be a



You've got a lot of choices. I
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-2007
In reply to: zerofuture
Sun, 02-22-2009 - 3:56pm

Hi Zero -


Welcome back - great to read your update!


And (as usual) - I totally agree with Lexi - I hope you stick around and give the other folks on the board some input from your perspective - and besides - we've missed you!!


Hugs -


Tgr ;)


(and BTW - Hi Lexi - long time no chat!!)

lightning in my heart

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-18-2007
In reply to: zerofuture
Sun, 02-22-2009 - 4:08pm

Hi Zero,

Like you, I didn't expect to still be involved with MM - now over 20 months. Our situation, as you know, is much like yours in that I too am in my 50's and H is over 70 and there is a total absence of SR between us as well as a different outlook on life because of the age difference. MM is mid-40's and from the first we met we were head-over-heels for each other. Although we had our first d-day a year ago, we still manage to communicate with each other even though he's monitored closely. We've made several attempts between us to end it but neither has been strong enough to make it stick. Since it's a LDA it's primarily an EA at this point although before d-day we met about every 4-6 weeks. We knew going into it that we weren't leaving our M, even though we'd expressed the desire to be together many times, so it was no surprise to me that once his W discovered the A that he chose to stay. I would say that I'm somewhat in limbo...unable to decide whether to stay in this or end it.

Cookie

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-12-2009
In reply to: zerofuture
Sun, 02-22-2009 - 4:09pm
Hey I thought of you recently!
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-15-2003
In reply to: zerofuture
Sun, 02-22-2009 - 7:16pm
i am glad to read that there are other W here with H's much older than them.
~k