Need advice!

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Registered: 03-26-2010
Need advice!
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Wed, 06-30-2010 - 12:29am

I'm not sure how to handle a situation and I'd love some feedback.

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Registered: 06-12-2010
In reply to: janejosie
Wed, 06-30-2010 - 12:36am
I'm actually kind of confused about who is who in your description. However, I would NEVER try to make a man jealous by sharing sexual stories about another man. You never know if he may "snap". Now if "sharing" is something you do two do to turn each other on, that s a different story.
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In reply to: janejosie
Wed, 06-30-2010 - 2:37am

LOL.

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Registered: 04-11-2010
In reply to: janejosie
Wed, 06-30-2010 - 4:46am
I probably wouldnt say anything. Enjoy your fun and keep it to yourself. These men want it all- bottom line is 'if he liked it then he shoulda put a ring on it ' :)
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Registered: 03-29-2010
In reply to: janejosie
Wed, 06-30-2010 - 7:39am
I'd talk to him about it first. Even if you're "just friends", you do have sex and having sex with someone else makes a difference with "protection" choices and other things so I'd clue him in. I'd also take his feelings into consideration if he doesn't want you to go through with it. Don't be surprised if he doesn't. Then there are certain types of guys that would get a kick out of it and want all the details. Whatever - I'd mention it!

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Registered: 04-27-2010
In reply to: janejosie
Wed, 06-30-2010 - 12:40pm
Jane...in honor of your new avavtar --which I find HYSTERICAL-- just quit playin' w/ monkeys!!! I have no other advice...LOL!
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In reply to: janejosie
Wed, 06-30-2010 - 4:37pm
What?!?!? Kimber, that is my AP, not some monkey!!! Ahahaha!
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Registered: 05-21-2010
In reply to: janejosie
Wed, 06-30-2010 - 4:48pm

LOL...at the avatar! I thought that was you!!! Thought you were really brave posting a picture:-)


WOW! Your story is hard to follow...lol! I really think you just need to go with your gut on this one...do you want to sleep with ex-AP because it is really hot, incredible sex...or are you doing it to "get back" at current AP for not admitting that you are more than "just friends"? I think that if his actions show that he thinks of the two of you as more than just friends...and you are going to sleep with ex-AP to make him jealous...then I would rethink not only doing it, but definitely wouldn't tell current AP about it either.


If you really want to hook up with ex-AP just for a night of...hmmm...fun:-) then I say go for it..and I wouldn't tell current AP.

If you use protection and are comfortable with it...go for it!


Hope this helps some...I see you have gotten a lot of differing advice...so just my 2c worth.

LouLou
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Registered: 05-03-2010
In reply to: janejosie
Wed, 06-30-2010 - 5:36pm

OK, this is just my two cents here.


I jokingly told AP last night (after struggling to find some time to spend together) that I was just going to have to get a lover on the side.

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Registered: 05-29-2010
In reply to: janejosie
Wed, 06-30-2010 - 6:28pm
Good question Jane!
I'm interested to hear what you decide, because I am in a similar situation!
My current AP knows that I have an FWB in another city. He has made it clear that he is jealous, and we used to sort of playfully talk about being each other's 'only' AP. He has said multiple times I am his only, and I can tell he is being honest.
The thing is though, I've never agreed to it, and I don't really want to. I like my FWB, it's fun and easy and I don't want to give it up. I also don't want to hurt AP but at the same time, can he really ask me to be in an A with only him? Not sure. Anyway, I'm going to go to the other city this summer and will be seeing my FWB. I have no idea how it's going to play out with current AP! If I even mention the city, he jumps on it and asks if I'm going to see my FWB so I can't really lie about it.
If he really pleaded with me and was emotional about it, I'd consider it. At least talk about it but I really have no idea on which side I'd land!
So I don't really have any advice! Maybe see how it goes with your first AP and if things keep moving along, then maybe tell your second AP. But if first AP comes and goes from your life, it might not be worth it. But yes, use protection!
Let me know how it goes!
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Registered: 03-26-2010
In reply to: janejosie
Thu, 07-01-2010 - 12:10am

Well, thanks for all of the thoughtful advice, but it turned out to be a moot point.

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