Need advice

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Registered: 09-30-2003
Need advice
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Sun, 10-19-2003 - 5:25pm
This is a sensitive subject. MM told me that his W got news that she has to do another mamogram because they saw something in the first one that did not seem right. He is very scared, as I would expect, and so is she. The thing is I don't feel uncomfortable talking about this with him because I know that he is scared and he is thinking the worse and thinking about his daughter. Our A is pretty new and i don't know how I should act, being that he is going through a tough time. I have not said anything about us and he had not called the last three days and I was wondering why and now I know. I do feel weird though consoling him about it, but I do mean it. I don't know how to act or talk to him because I care about him so much and don't want to say or do the wrong thing.
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Registered: 04-03-2003
In reply to: sally289
Sun, 10-19-2003 - 11:10pm
This is very hard. But i can say be there as a friend. Don't judge or pressure him to leave or spend time with you, just be open and understanding. Just be there as a good friend and lover like your instinct is telling you. good luck. This is a very hard situation.

jenny

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Registered: 04-24-2003
In reply to: sally289
Mon, 10-20-2003 - 8:44am
hello, ´strength to you. i agree be a great friend but LOVER, get real, don't pressure him or allow yourself to be used. This is a very sensitive time, and he will be looking for support, someone to talk to lean on, and yeah its easier to fall into bed now, but if you are just starting out, try to show him what a great friend you can be, even if your sex fizzles out. His W is more important than you. So is his daughter, THat is HIS family, you can be a friend on the side, but give them the space..
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Registered: 09-30-2003
In reply to: sally289
Mon, 10-20-2003 - 5:38pm
That is what I am doing so far it is the best I can do. Thank you.