In need of advice and encouragement!!
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In need of advice and encouragement!!
| Sat, 07-03-2010 - 7:16am |
Hi all,
today is my H's and my 17th wedding anniversary. I am still on vacation with the family, and have not gotten one text from AP. I haven't texted him either. Of course, I wonder if he even misses me. Here's my question- do I post something on facebook about H and my anniversary and put a pic of the two of us as my profile pic? My AP is a friend on facebook and I know he looks at my pics and reads my statuses...he will never comment on anything I write, though. One time, last year, AP and I were chatting on FB and H was on my FB account on the computer upstairs and saw us chatting - this was only friendly chatting but it freaked AP out and now he won't ever chat or post on my FB.
H gave me a beautiful anniversary card and in it, he thanked me for my love and for my LOYALTY!! I am having terrible guilt today and just would appreciate any advice. Thank you all in advance!
today is my H's and my 17th wedding anniversary. I am still on vacation with the family, and have not gotten one text from AP. I haven't texted him either. Of course, I wonder if he even misses me. Here's my question- do I post something on facebook about H and my anniversary and put a pic of the two of us as my profile pic? My AP is a friend on facebook and I know he looks at my pics and reads my statuses...he will never comment on anything I write, though. One time, last year, AP and I were chatting on FB and H was on my FB account on the computer upstairs and saw us chatting - this was only friendly chatting but it freaked AP out and now he won't ever chat or post on my FB.
H gave me a beautiful anniversary card and in it, he thanked me for my love and for my LOYALTY!! I am having terrible guilt today and just would appreciate any advice. Thank you all in advance!

Did you wish your husband a "Happy Anniversary?"
Hi iamnumberone1,
You are right, I really don't need to advertise on FB.
"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss
"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss
you really have to put things in perspective..you have a husband...and my question to you would be Why are you trying to make your ap jealous? or even suggesting it...? i know you posted you aren't going to put anything up on FB so that your ap can see, but why did it even cross your mind?
from an ap's standpoint i will say that he is probably just giving you your space and considering that you are already married and have made it clear you aren't leaving, he is just respecting you and your husband.
now from the outside looking in, it sounds like you are in love with ap...and well i don't know what to say to that; but, you really can't feel any type of way because you have a husband, yes i understand you have feeling but again, you have a husband...so if he talks to you one day and then not the next...what he's doing and where he is..even who else he's been with is none of your concern...don't mean to sound real harsh or anything like that..but keep perspective and remember you entered this with a spouse..he is single...and yes i am reflecting..but people always think it's hard for the single person in the affair..i think its a balance of difficulty..i think both sides the married person and the single person both get hit hard with a lot of issues....you married folks in a single person/married person affair..enter this with spouses then you want to catch feelings about your single affair partner doing their thing while they are not with you....you can't do that...? you have to put yourself in the single persons shoes and consider that they also have their moments when they know you are with your spouse or family...get me...and this is even in the case where they aren't in love or just really like their married affair partner...
i'm just trying to give you some insight on how things go on the other side, and to say...chill a bit...remember he's single...he's gonna do single people things...and there will be times he doesn't reach out to you or call or fb you or text..now time for me to hit the streets..i'm going out to flirt, meet other men and possibly i'll stumble upon someone who can make completely happy...and no i didn't say that to give a gut punch..i said it because that's reality....
"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss
"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss