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| Wed, 12-17-2003 - 3:59pm |
I am, suprise, suprise, considering an affair. I have know this man for 15 years. He's my best friend and my boss. I've know him through one divorce and several bad breakups. I've been married for seven years. We're not miserable but we are two very different people. I love my h, we have two children together and I don't have any plans to leave him. I just feel like something huge is missing. My h is a very unemotional, rational and somewhat repressed man. I am not. C has always been the friend I could be completely honest with and just takes me for what I am, he also has always been there for me when I am at the end of my rope. We work in a very small office and the sexual tension has become rather intense. Up until about a month ago he was dating my best female friend (I had actually set them up). I guess what it is is that I know we can't keep going on like this forever. We've come very close a couple of times. To the point where one or the other pulls back, everything cools off then it starts building again. I guess I always thought that affairs were a step on the way to something else (leaving, etc.) and now there is a whole part of me that is thinking why. Why can't I be in love with two men? Does anyone else feel this way?

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You have to take a long look down the road. What happens when you do fall in love with MM? Or what happens when something goes wrong? Can you still work together? What if your H finds out? What will happen to your job?
I'm in love with MM and not in love with my H. I have a little boy. My life is in such turmoil that some days I can't think straight. But I must say when me and MM are together the whole world is right!
I would never leave my husband, because I have a commitment to him that I am thrilled to keep. OM would never leave his wife, for the same reason. OTOH, if we were free to marry, e.g. our spouses lived to ripe old age and we could marry at age 75 and live out our next 10 years together, we would.
Edited 3/10/2004 5:07 pm ET ET by geek_chic
i love two men, spend quality times with both of them, have great sex with both and i deal with it just fine, thank you. and i'll keep both Rs just the way they are for as long as possible. i find that i like to juggle!
gurl
i'm envious of you ladies who take control of your lives at 28! keep on being strong and in charge!
gurl
and who knows what is "normal!" we're all normal in our own way. just enjoy life, because it's too short for guilt, sadness and heartache, but those things are all a part of life too!
whew, i think i'm done now.....
gurl
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