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Need advice. My story
| Fri, 10-24-2003 - 8:44pm |
I am new to the board. I have been married for a year and a half and have been having an affair with a MM since Feb. 2003. My husband and I had problems before getting married but we went through counselling together and things were great a year before we got married and the first few months after the wedding. I honestly thought that he had changed and we were going to have a healthy marraige. In August, my husband was physically abusive and he was arrested. I still have not spoken to him but we are not separated. He does not know of my affair.
The man I am having the affair with has been very supportive and we talked about leaving our spouses for about 5 months now. I love him and we have so much in common. Last week his wife found out about us and wants a divorce. He has been out of town for weeks now and has not faced her.
The biggest obstacle is I am 30 and he is 50. I want to have kids and he had a vacetomy. He is willing to have it reversed and do whatever it takes to have children with me. I keep reading books on infidelity and the odds are stacked against us should we get together. I feel like my life is in limbo right now. Any thoughts or advice?

We had decided that we would not have more kids if we end up together. i have one which is more that i can handle, and he has 2, already grown. i don't know the chances of success after reversing a V, but i don't think the chances are THAT bad. You should do some research.
Just thought i'd let you know i am in similar circumstances and the age thing well... it's a challenge i guess in some ways but not too bad. we think it's kinky :) There's a "may december romance" message board here, too.
Anyway he's still with his W but our stories are similar :)
jen