Need advice- tangled in 2 EMAs
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| Wed, 05-12-2004 - 3:13pm |
I'm a MW, and have been having a LDEMA with a MM for awhile now- no physical contact yet, but emotionally clinched. Anyway, for about 2 months now he's been kind of distant to the point where I thought the EMA was over.
During this "distant" time, I met a local MM and we had a flirtation going. We ended up going to lunch a couple times and yesterday ended "lunch" with sex in his car. He and I agreed to keep seeing each other and are making plans for our next rendezvous.
Wouldn't you know it, this morning I get a call from the LDEMA. He poured out this sob story to me about how his life has been awful the past couple months, he knows he's been distant, and he told me everything. And now I understand why he's seemed distant. He has lost 2 jobs, his W has been putting him through hell, and several other things I won't bother getting into. Anyway, he is talking about leaving her. I know he is being honest with me and cares for me a great deal.
Now, here's my dilemma. I really care about the LDEMA- I would leave my H for him. But I have my doubts about whether it will work solely because of the distance issue. On the other hand, I really am having fun now with the local MM, and kind of want to see where that leads, too.
I've never had a local EMA before and I'm wondering how to go about meeting/ arranging hotels and such- we definitely need more room than the car. Can anyone advise me on this?
My other question is more personal- am I making a mistake seeing both guys at once to see where things go?
