Need Advice, thinking about ending A and

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Need Advice, thinking about ending A and
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Sun, 05-10-2009 - 9:14am

Let me began by saying; I feel very foolish and very depressed right now.

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Wed, 05-13-2009 - 4:13pm

Do you think the OM is selfish? He really wants his cake,pie,ice cream, and whatever else you can give him too. I would venture a little further.....and say that his girlfriend has low self esteem like you do. There are some people who prey on others.....and it looks like he could be one.


He doesn't seem to care about your feelings, or hers. You are the lucky one because you are not

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Wed, 05-13-2009 - 9:12pm

Do you think the OM is selfish?

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Wed, 05-13-2009 - 9:16pm

Well to give you an update on what is going on with me this is what happened on Sunday.

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Registered: 04-18-2009
Wed, 05-13-2009 - 11:12pm

Elise,


<<It appears he wants someone he can control and that is not going to happen with me.

Don't hold to anger, hurt or pain. They steal your energy and keep you from love.       ~Anonymous
 &nb

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Thu, 05-14-2009 - 11:03am
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Thu, 05-14-2009 - 12:57pm

I think you're headed in a more positive direction with your thinking anyway. But trying to get him to admit that he doesn't want more out of the relationship is futile...especially when he's already been up front with you about what it is for him. Why wait for him if you feel you need to move on? Because he'll never say it if he thinks it will keep you around, even if he knows you aren't happy with the terms.


My xAP would never say that he wanted me out of his life either...even after

Don't hold to anger, hurt or pain. They steal your energy and keep you from love.       ~Anonymous
 &nb

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Thu, 05-14-2009 - 4:20pm

I think you're headed in a more positive direction with your thinking anyway. But trying to get him to admit that he doesn't want more out of the relationship is futile...especially when he's already been up front with you about what it is for him. Once again, you are right.

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Thu, 05-14-2009 - 4:35pm
Another thing I wanted to point out is that when I was upset and crying my eyes out, I told him that maybe I should go home and tell my husband everything and my boss (for the record, my boss suspects something).
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Registered: 04-18-2009
Thu, 05-14-2009 - 5:18pm

Well, sure...they might try to

Don't hold to anger, hurt or pain. They steal your energy and keep you from love.       ~Anonymous
 &nb

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Registered: 01-07-2009
Thu, 05-14-2009 - 7:24pm

Elise,


I've been following your posts. Just lurking, but, I do that a lot. In the back & forth conversations you have been carrying on here, I noticed one thing that may be missing.... If this other "GF" does become more emotionally involved, and your AP is still trying to keep you "on a string" (so to speak).... I would really worry about HER becoming jealous and causing a D-day for you.