need encourgement on my sexual A

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Registered: 05-16-2003
need encourgement on my sexual A
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Wed, 02-25-2004 - 3:08pm
hello everyone.. It's been a long while since I posted. I'm currently in a sexual A with a mm for about a year now. I'm also married 5 yrs and mm for 1 yr. 5 mo. I enjoy what we have and couldn't ask for anything else right now in my life. We satisfy each other way better than our spouses. We tell that to each other all the time. It's nothing more than a sexual R. We don't want anything more.

Ok here is where I need encourgment today!! Today, my sister and I got into an argument about something and called me selfish and self centered!! Which is not true about what we were argueing about. But I can't help to think I'm being selfish and self - centered in my A. Nobody knows about my A, I just can't help to think what she would really think of me if she found out.. so everyone tell me I'm not selfish and self centered.. please I really need it right now..

Thank you soo much.. Chrissluver

Gina
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Registered: 01-21-2004
Wed, 02-25-2004 - 3:39pm

hi chris and welcome back!

CL-Gurlfriend50

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Wed, 02-25-2004 - 3:51pm
hi gurlfriend.. The argument was being about her being on third shift and her being tired all the time, and I only work the weekend shift which is also the night shift, but only two nights. Fri 11 pm - sat morn. till 11 am. and same thing sat. night. she's saying that I'm selfish cause I complain all the time that I'm tired working that shift, which I am. She's the one that's tired and she works every night. and looks at me like YOU'RE tired, look at me. I have every right to complain that I'm tired. I told her she has control of her life and she can do something about it if she wanted. Also, she asked me this morning any tips for losing weight. I told her to exercise and she responded with SHE doesn't have time like I do! she says I brag cause I have all week off.. I'm wasn't bragging, I was telling her ways to help lose some weight. so I responded with she's a little jealous, but she has the power to change her lifestyle if she wanted..

AUGH, anyway, I don't feel selfish and self centered about our arguement, just about my A right now. I know it is selfish and self centered, of course, but I don't want to feel that way right now about it.. and I know it has nothing to do with my arguement, it's what I'm feeling today.. so I'm looking for some support of my A right now I guess.. LOL

Thanks, chrissluver

Gina
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Registered: 01-21-2004
Wed, 02-25-2004 - 3:58pm

honey, you're feeling upset about the disagreement with your sis and that's got you thinking about your A, somehow.

CL-Gurlfriend50

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Registered: 05-16-2003
Wed, 02-25-2004 - 4:06pm
Thank you for writing to me and giving me some words of encourgment.. I really needed it!! I am happy in my A! and am looking forword to our next get-together.. she always had her own little way of putting me down for something, and if she found out about my A, then she would definately would let me have it.. I just hate those words selfish and self-centered!!! so harsh!!

Thanks again.. and I'll be posting again!! I'm happy I"m back thanks for the support..

chrissluver....

Gina
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Registered: 01-21-2004
Wed, 02-25-2004 - 4:10pm
you're welcome honey.

CL-Gurlfriend50

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