Need help :(

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Need help :(
4
Wed, 03-26-2003 - 11:34am
I mentioned yesterday about my letters to my man. I wrote him another one last night as I miss him so much on our days off. We work at the same place and have the same days off. I'm going to see him tommorow and as mentioned we are suppose to be having dinner together. He is in a management type position so I am not even suppose to be giving him letters of this nature. I asked him last week why he didn't turn me in he said "Why would I?" He is the sweetest person and what's strange is our personalities are very similar. I thought one time he had said something to someone about the letters. He said "those are between me and you". I don't think either one of us has been in a situation like this before. I don't really even know why he wants to have dinner as we discussed most of it last week. I asked him then if he was attracted to me he didn't give me a yes or no answer just said "what do you expect me to say?" I have been getting alot of hot looks from him at work so I don't know where this is going? I did some crying last night as I don't know where this is going for either of us. I just need to vent right now as I feel like I'm getting in over my head but don't know where to go.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 03-26-2003 - 11:56am
Hi there,

i am not sure what your story is and if you have been together in a more sexual way but just go to dinner and have a good time and maybe you should be more bold and tell him you want him and see what he says it sounds like he can keep a secret and that is a plus i just need more info about your situation and then i could give more advice, but just relax and have fun.

princess

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 03-26-2003 - 12:15pm
It all started by him actually he kept smiling at me with these gorgeous smiles. I then had to file a sexual harassement charge against someone at work. He was the one I first turned to and then things started heating up from there. We started talking on a regular basis and then I not only got his smiles but then he started giving me these hot looks.

I fell for him pretty hard and started giving him letters telling him how much I wanted him. The letters are pretty explicit so he knows exactly how much I want him. I told him things I do of a sexual nature that my husband does not even know about. We are friends too which makes it a more difficult situation as I don't want to lose his friendship. I want to have dinner with him to see where this is going or if it is going?

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 03-26-2003 - 12:37pm
you go girl, that is a great idea about the letters, well all is out on the table from what it sounds like and you sound like you really want him so go for it all he can say is no and that should not mess your friendship up. what does he say about those letter has he written you any letters? and if so are the along he same lines as yours? well you just keep doing what your doing but it sounds like you need to have him soon or you will be thinking of it way too much so just be bold and tell him you want those letters to become reality. but yet again i don't know everything just some advice, i got real bold with my mm and it worked we were planning to get a room for the first time and he got guilty on me so i told him i wanted have him and i was not taking no and he would be mad if he passed this up and what do you know were did the hotel thing and it was more than i ever imagined. something to think about. good luck

princess
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 03-26-2003 - 2:05pm
He has been really good through this whole thing. He hasn't written me any letters but I have to write the letters as I can't really talk about it at work with him. The other day when we talked we were sitting out in the lobby area where we work. I think he wants to talk more but beginning of the week is a busy time for him. I usually leave before he does last week he drove past my bus stop 2 days in a row. He had never done that before I was really surprised as I had never seen him do this before. He will be leaving to go to training at another store I think April 7th is his last day. I don't know which store he will be going to after that I told him the store I am transferring to. I don't know if this will end whatever we have or not. He doesn't seem too big on talking on email when I mentioned it to him. He has my email address but has never used it. He didn't know how to find something on ebay so I had to tell him that too. It caught me by surprise when he mentioned having dinner. I asked him what his wife would think and all he did was shrug his shoulders. I don't think he has told anyone about the letters. He seems to come around alot when he knows I have one for him. The last time I gave him one he came up by where I was and walked outside watching the rain. I walked outside and gave it to him as he kept acting like he was waiting for something. I had told him earlier that night that I had one I was trying to decide whether to give him or not. He had said "whatever I'll be her all night" and smiled. I walked outside and told him I was giving it to him and he took it and when he took it he ran his fingers over mine. I want him so much and it keeps getting worse. In one of my letters I told him I liked kissing so he knows very well how much I want him. I've felt something for him since first seeing him in December of last year. I told him in one of the letters that the way I feel for him, I hadn't even felt that way when I was first dating my husband. I have never felt this way about anybody.

Thank you for just being there to listen as this has been hard for me.