Need Help

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Registered: 05-09-2012
Need Help
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Fri, 10-19-2012 - 11:40am

A friend of mine and myself have been discussing the text that I got from my AP.  She thinks it means one thing and I think it means another.  So we decided I'd post it on here and see what everyone else thinks.

I met up with AP again Monday, I asked if we were friends and he said yeah why wouldn't we be.  I said because the only time we talk was when we wanted to meet up.  He said he had an issue with that too.  He had mentioned something a long time ago about it but I ignored it.  So I texted him yesterday trying to set up an email account for us to communicate, and he never responded.  He never responded to a text or a call today.  So I finally sent him a text and asked him if he was ignoring me purposefully.  He said he had a lot of things going on.  I asked if his W was getting suscpious or if it was about us and he said no worries but that we were at a stand still right now.

I asked him what was making us at a stand still and asked if he needed a break and I got this in response.

AP: Yea maybe so I can't let my mind get a handle on everything.

me:I told him I understood and we really needed to talk about this via email.

AP:  sorry I can't email lets just focus on our families and see what happens okay

me:  Okay I need to know and be honest is the reason why you can't wrap your head around things because of me and emotions?

AP: no I don't know just need some time okay

That was the end.  I told him okay.  I know he cares, he's said so before but here lately things have gotten us acting real crazy....

Any opinion would appreciated and we will see which one of us has the same views as others.

 

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Registered: 09-21-2007
Fri, 10-19-2012 - 12:05pm

It sounds like something is going on with him, and he doesn't want to talk about it.  This might all be too much for him to handle and he is on overload.  All you can do is respect his wishes, and see what happens.  Try not to contact him and see what the outcome is. 

You can do this! 

 

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Registered: 10-11-2012
Fri, 10-19-2012 - 4:42pm

Hi .....I'm fairly new to the boards so not an expert on giving advice etc etc.  But your AP sounds like mine has been at times.  A bit non committal and keeping you dangling.  You are doing all you can to assist by setting up email accounts to talk and you are coming up against a brick wall on the communication front.  Its frustrating.  From my own experience the best thing to do albeit hard is to leave him to it !  Hope that helps a bit :)

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-09-2012
Fri, 10-19-2012 - 6:58pm

Thanks everyone!  I'm so confused and the only thing I can do is leave him to it.  Sometimes I wish we weren't 20 feet away it would be so much easier to stay away.

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Registered: 05-17-2012
In reply to: Love_Guru
Sun, 10-21-2012 - 2:21pm

"...no I don't know just need some time okay............"

".....sorry I can't email lets just focus on our families and see what happens okay......."

what exactly are you confused about ? its simple english , he wants you to really leave him alone & not be imposing  on him   your unecessary emotions & feelings . Sometimes It can really become  too smothering & a man doesn't   want to deal or rather put up with that  even if you are giving him amazing sex  . To me it seems that  if in future he would feel like having  some quick fun  with you  ,he knows how to call you .

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Registered: 03-24-2003
In reply to: juliasuk
Tue, 10-23-2012 - 9:55am

 

'...what exactly are you confused about ? its simple english , he wants you to really leave him alone & not be imposing  on him   your unecessary emotions & feelings . Sometimes It can really become  too smothering & a man doesn't   want to deal or rather put up with that  even if you are giving him amazing sex'

Unfortunately for the OP, I agree, completely. He's basiclally saying 'leave me alone, I don't know if I want to keep doing this with you'.

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Registered: 08-17-2010
Sun, 11-04-2012 - 10:02pm

It sounds like he is unsure of this affair. It is getting too complicated for him instead of just easy and fun. The emotional part of an affair coupled with the physical can be crazy. It is not for everyone. I would lay low. If he wants you, he will let you know. There is nothing you can do to convince him otherwise.