Need Immediate Advice

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-25-2004
Need Immediate Advice
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Mon, 02-02-2004 - 12:01am
I wrote last week explaning the situation I have at work with a 40 year old man who recently got engaged. He has been pressued by his friends and family to marry for years. However, if I didn't know any better, he is sending me signals that he wants to physically and emotionally connect with me in a way that is secret between the two of us.

Througout the last year, our contact has gone from hello without physical contact, to kisses on the head, to hours a long in his office just talking. I see him daily and when he is not in the office, he calls me at the office once to twice a week. Within the last month, he has stared calling my cell phone at night when he knows I am at the office working late... just to "chat." Two nights ago, he has asked me to call him... to chat.

I really like him... and I think my feelings might be changing. W haven't talked in 4 nights and it is driving me crazy. I knew this would happen. I would get attached and he would push back. My automatic response is to cut all contact with im immediately... until my crush has gone away.

But.. I know that is impossible. I like him and worse that that, I work for him. I despise the fact that I do care. He is a politician and a scam artist as most of them are by trade. Deep inside, I want to believe he has a good heart and that is certainly the part of him that I have seen during our conversations.

I need help!!! I need to know what to do to stop feeling mad at myself for allowing my heart to get close so fast!!! I need to know the process of letting go of a man who never cared!



iVillage Member
Registered: 12-28-2003
Mon, 02-02-2004 - 1:26am
Hello S

Sorry there is know easy way out, all you can do is to keep the contact professional or move to a new job if you can't, focusing on his negative points may help some.

Do not to get emotinaly involved in an EMA unless you want to get hurt a lot.

By the way you have provided enough info in your posts that a good reporter may be able to track your boss down a politician recently ingaged and if your last name is Johnson that could seal the deal.

Free

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-05-2004
Mon, 02-02-2004 - 12:51pm
damn free...

you're good....

I didnt even catch that...

your eyes are always open!!

Pls be careful girls!

TOW