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| Thu, 02-05-2004 - 8:09pm |
I stumbled upon this board and thought that there seemed like a lot of good advice here and was hoping to get some thrown my way.
Here is my pathetic story~
It happened about 2 months ago. A friends boyfriend and I started getting friendly. He said one night when we were all out drinking I had made some remarks (which I now dont believe) about us hooking up. Somehow we ended up texting on a daily basis. They were in the process of breaking up and he started to ask me about us getting together. I resisted a bit, but there was an attraction. After about 2 weeks of chatting he and I met for coffee. Things started to change, we kissed. Things progressed rather quickly, they broke up but then got back together (sort of).We continued texting and talking, and even met a few times. He came over here, I went to his place and we went out a few times for drinks.
He kept doing odd things, he would text me how he missed me and would ask numerous times if I missed him. He told me he cared about me and my son. He wrote to me about having sex, do I want him...He wrote me about us having a baby! The whole time he was trying to get back with her. Then he was getting sloppy, one time he text me but sent it to her. Actually that happened MORE than once. He left me voice mails of how sweet I was, he wishes we could be together blah blah blah. Let's face it though- I loved the attention.
Well it all has come to head the last few weeks. On Jan 16 the 3 of us went out, while at the bar he text me that he thought he loved me!! This really took me by surprise, and our A definitly had changed. The next week I tried to break things off and told him it wasnt me he wanted or loved, I was just meant to fill a void when he wasnt with her or his kids. He called me and said that he didnt want things to end. He really cared about me blah blah blah. So I stupidly called him and left a voicemail, saying that though I did miss him and whatnot I was trying to do what was best for us all. Then I did it, I said I love you.
Needless to say, he saved my voicemail and she called his messages (bcz she had the code) and heard everything. The s*&% hit the fan. He and I talked a little got our story somewhat straight and then her and I talked and texted so she can rip me to shreds. I emailed her and told her what I was feeling and doing ~ leaving out some minor details.
She of course showed him
A few days after I sent it, he sent me a few nasty texts. Too much to write but since then I havent heard a word. Its been nearly a week and nothing from him. The GF and I are talking, trying to repair our friendship. Believe it or not and I know she is working on things with him.
My question is.. I want to text him so badly and say a few things. Should I? I know I risk the chance of him showing her but its really killing me. I think if I word the texts right, he wont be able to show her because it will incriminate him.
Help, please I'm so very confused.

A little free advice which may be all it's worth, FORGET HIM, move on hes more grief then hes worth, any text should consist of four letter words only :-) LOL.
Free
I agree with Free on this one, What you need to ask yourself is will sending him a text solve anything? I know it would make you feel better but would it do more damage with to you frienship with her? You should try to forget about him and move on with your life and do whats best for YOU! But this is just my opinion
Seeburg
Seeburg
hi laki and welcome to the board honey!
i'm going to agree with seeburg and free on this one too.
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