Need lots of support!

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Need lots of support!
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Mon, 10-11-2010 - 10:04am

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Registered: 10-08-2010
Mon, 10-11-2010 - 10:51am

(((hugs))))

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Registered: 05-17-2003
Mon, 10-11-2010 - 11:05am

Aww jersey, we're here for you.

Honestly though...and I will state the obvious here, but if he ends it after you tell him this...then you certainly don't need such a shallow, heartless person in your life...do you?

My daughter dated a guy with herpes for four years. I'll be honest with you, at first it worried me, but after researching the condition I realized that my worries were for naught!

Deep breaths jersey....(((hugs)))

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Registered: 10-03-2009
Mon, 10-11-2010 - 11:09am

Hi Jerseygirl,

Good luck! You're surely doing the right thing..

My AP was in a similar situation though her medical challenge was due to a car accident and scars and so on.. she really had had a hard time, naturally, explaining the situation.

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Mon, 10-11-2010 - 7:46pm
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Mon, 10-11-2010 - 8:16pm

Speaking as someone who knows virtually nothing about your condition, I can say that I'd be tempted to run for the hills, too.

anotherseyes

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Registered: 10-09-2010
Mon, 10-11-2010 - 8:20pm

I agree the sooner the better, esp. before anything else more physical happens. There's really nothing more you can do but to wait and see what he says and what his reaction is. I would be prepared for the worst, but hope for the best. I guess I would try to turn the tables and think of how I would feel if the man I was seeing sat me down and told me this news. I'd probably be shocked and not sure how Id react. In all honesty, my first reaction might be to end it, because there would be no way I would want to risk ever getting it and giving it my spouse. That would be my biggest concern. Not necessarily for me, but for my spouse, and that in turn revealing the A to my spouse. Im hoping it goes well for you. *hugs*

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Registered: 10-18-2009
Mon, 10-11-2010 - 8:31pm

Since 16% of the population have it, he might have it too? There are also "asymptomatic" careers, who might not know that they have it, helping to spread it. He can consult with a doctor?

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Registered: 04-05-2007
Mon, 10-11-2010 - 9:36pm
Good luck with this Jersey. I know that I feel like Tangled - if it were me, I might be willing to take whatever risk there was for myself, but not for my H. Even if the chance was small, I would feel like I already "risk" his well being; I wouldn't want to further risk it. However, if you do get completely physical, and you use protection, wouldn't that make everything safe? And we all should be using protection anyway, no?

Keep us updated on this one!
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