need major advice, please help me out!
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need major advice, please help me out!
| Mon, 05-25-2009 - 4:16am |
Hi everyone, I've posted here once before about my situation and I'm still in it and needing major advice on a few things. This is going to be a long post but this is the minimum I can put it to give everyone a good idea of our situation.
First, I am trying to decide if this is worth it to stay in or if in the end, I'm going to waste time, maybe even years that I won't be able to get back. Here is my situation: I'm 20, he's 39 and a MM. We have known each other for a few years before and this started 8 months ago, so we've been together about 8 months, and we are very much in love with each other. In the years I knew him before I never thought about him in this way at all, and he was the same way with me, but

I really hope I'm wrong, but as one who waited years for an AP who didn't leave because of "finances", and who never did, I think that it is very doubtful yours will. If a man wants to be with someone, he will move mountains to do it. It won't matter if he has to work at Wal-Mart (no offense to those who work at Wal-Mart). The fact that he will have to pay alimony to his W, because she stayed home and took care of their kids instead of working, will NEVER change.
When I left my H, I took only my clothes and moved to a rented house (I left the house I bought in my name). I had to write my H enormous checks since this is an equal property state. I slept on the floor. But all of this was worth it because I was doing it for ME. I could not endure another minute in the M.
It sounds like your AP has it pretty cushy--his own apt. in the house, a GF 20 years younger, gets to keep his money.
No that doesn't seem harsh, it's exactly what I've been starting to worry about.. He even said that just a couple months into it he would have gone through the divorce even if he had to move back into his parent's basement, now he's wanting to stay with me but wait until his house can sell for a profit before doing anything since that's his only way to pay unless he goes into major debt. It makes me wonder if a D was ever an option, because his financial situation was the same a few months ago.
Hi there. I somewhat feel your pain, however, my AP and I are both married, and though caught twice, have no plans of ending our Ms. We "long" to have the freedom with one another that we do our spouses, but do not obsess about it and have no illusions nor jealousy.
Now, I am going to play the Devil's advocate:
He is 39, you are 20? Remove yourself from