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| Fri, 11-20-2009 - 11:00pm |
About 3 and a half months ago my AP was served divorce papers. It seemed him and his wife never went any futher to push the issue. I knew since this past summer he was selling his house then moving back home to where his family is. He is having trouble finding work in our local area.

Oh no, you lost the baby? I'm so sorry. Are you doing ok as far as that? I remember you were pretty happy about the baby and he wasnt. So, how are you and him coping with that?
As far as the R, anything can happen. If you and him really want to work things out and are willing to, then it can work. There is also the chance that he and W could work things out. I know you are afraid of this but that is a risk we take. In a regular R there is a risk that
MoonUnit
First of all, sorry for the loss of your baby.
Secondly, you may not know for sure whether they sleep together or not - you know only his side of the story, and as we all know here, AP would tell you anything to keep you where he wants you.
>>I'm terrified of being devastated, and ending our relaltionship will protect me from being crushed. - This is contradictory statement, but the main thing is that you can't stay in any relationship just because you're terrified of being devastated. You're being devastated over and over by staying in this relationship with him. Can you truly say you are happy? How this relationship makes you feel?
>>He told me today to take one day at a time. - They all say it. It protects them from being questioned about the future of your relationship since they can't offer you anything and know you'd end things with them if you knew it for sure.
Moonunit, you're too concerned with him and his life. You whole post it about what he does/thinks/plans and nothing about you. How are things between you and your husband? How you're dealing with the loss of the baby? Are you seeing therapist? tell us about YOU.
Hugs,
GbG
i miscarried, it was a very sad, emotionally upsetting experience. mm was very supportive through it all. honestly mm knows that it would not bother me if he was sleeping with his wife. he's a very upfront person and pulls no punches. he always has been. believe it or not i'm very happy in my relationship with him. what i'm afaiad of is being hurt when it comes to his time to leave. where does it leave us. will he go back to his wife. how will our life be. i know to take one day at a time, and not dwell on the what ifs.
MoonUnit