Need Opinions please!

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Registered: 01-03-2009
Need Opinions please!
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Tue, 03-24-2009 - 1:28pm

Hi Ladies!


I will

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Registered: 12-18-2008
Tue, 03-24-2009 - 1:34pm

Why did you choose to have an affair? (this is for both long-term and short-term as I feel the reasons may be different)

I do it for the excitement. Something just for me.

Do you still love your husband/SO and intend to stay with him?

Yes, I love my H, I don't love either of my APs.

Was penis size ever a factor?(I ask this one, because a lot of men seem to think their women will leave them for a bigger penis-- I'm not kidding- this is a huge one in male minds)

Not ever a factor. It's something I notice LOL. H is great in bed and that has nothing to do with his 'size'.

-jana

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Registered: 12-12-2008
Tue, 03-24-2009 - 3:20pm

Why did you choose to have an affair? (this is for both long-term and short-term as I feel the reasons may be different)


I am not sure to be honest, I struggle with this question everyday..I would say the biggest reason is after my H's Mom's death he became very distant (which is expected) and treated me as if I was a stranger...His family even acted as if they did not know me..It took him YEARS to realize he was shutting me out of

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Registered: 10-23-2008
Tue, 03-24-2009 - 4:41pm

Why did you choose to have an affair? (this is for both long-term and short-term as I feel the reasons may be different)


The previous ones were strictly out of anger / revenge and were strictly about the sex, my M had just started getting really bad at the time. Current one just sort of happened, wasn't looking to have an affair - this one

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Registered: 01-03-2009
Tue, 03-24-2009 - 6:10pm

Thank you so much for your responses! I really truly wanted to hear from real women who have or are experiencing affairs. I can go out there and look at the statistics of course- but that doesn't say anything about the very real people who get caught up in affairs. Theres a human face and a human story involved-- and

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Registered: 03-24-2009
Tue, 03-24-2009 - 6:47pm

I love my husband in every way but our sex drives are polar opposite...I had an affair 10 yrs ago and broke it off b/c of guilt that I hadn't tried hard enough (my AP and I were thousands of miles apart).

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Registered: 01-12-2009
Wed, 03-25-2009 - 10:04am

I had an affair because I fell in love with another man.

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Registered: 12-30-2008
Wed, 03-25-2009 - 10:58am
Why did you choose to have an affair? (this is for both long-term and short-term as I feel the reasons may be different)


My A is just sex... despite my best efforts my SO was not meeting my needs. Not even the basic ones much less my more kinky side.



Do you still love your husband/SO and intend to stay with him?


I do love him... but we've recently chosen to go our separate ways partly due to the problems that made me stray... but also due to other things. But NOT because of the A. If he'd made even a small effort to correct the problems I would have dropped AP in a second. Heck I still would.



Was penis size ever a factor?(I ask this one, because a lot of men seem to think their women will leave them for a bigger penis-- I'm not kidding- this is a huge one in male minds)


Nope... if it had I wouldn't have gone anywhere.



Basically, I just would like to know why you decided to take that step.


What finally pushed me over... Well the frustration with my sex life... and to that BF was quitting smoking... it made him a bit nasty. If you want deeper reasons... i guess i needed to feel wanted and desirable again. So i finally gave in and agreed to finally meet AP in person.


GQ
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Registered: 01-03-2009
Wed, 03-25-2009 - 4:30pm

Thanks again for some great responses- I really appreciate it. It must really get to be a balancing act when theres two men involved- and when you care for both of them-- wow!