Need some advice again and fast!

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Registered: 10-17-2008
Need some advice again and fast!
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Tue, 01-13-2009 - 3:37pm

I am sure by now some of you are familiar with me an AP or Xap depending on

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Registered: 10-10-2008
Tue, 01-13-2009 - 4:02pm
Have you considered that work email is monitored? He needs a email that is not at hm nor at work that he can access elsewhere. Home email is also very suspect. Most people learn how to "hack" into their other's email.
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Tue, 01-13-2009 - 4:22pm
I would NOT make contact again. He called you. He asked to meet. He told you how to confirm or deny said meeting. You did that. Next is his move....and trust me I KNOW the waiting is maddening. If he is flippant and calls you in the morning tomorrow saying "hey, where are you?" then you are done. You cannot live like that. If he calls you this evening, do whatever you want, but not if he calls in the morning. A little respect goes a long way....and if he doesn't call at all.....DO NOT CALL him trying to figure out his motive, intention...etc etc. Just my two cents......now if I could only take my own advice.
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Registered: 04-05-2007
Tue, 01-13-2009 - 4:35pm

It sounds like he is toying with you. I don't mean that to be harsh, not at all. But it seems like *maybe* he contacted you and floated that bit about him being near by as a way to gauge your reaction to him. Checking to see if you were still mad, if you hated him, if it was really over. This time of year seems to be famous for re-connections in relationships that had drama pre-holiday.

I would be careful. Hopefully you have heard from him by now.

~Shadowz
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Registered: 10-17-2008
Tue, 01-13-2009 - 4:57pm

Thanks everyone for your fast replies.

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Tue, 01-13-2009 - 5:56pm
We teach people how to treat us. If this has been how it was all along, he throws you a tiny bone and you come running then expect no change in how he treats you in the future. However, you now seemed not satisfied with things as they are. Maybe time to make a change? I personally wouldn't be able to make it (no matter how much I wanted to see him). Why? Because I need advance notice of where, when, time, and why. He also must (ahead of time) indicate how much he really wants to see me. Not just say I'll be somewhere near and expect for me be there....


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Tue, 01-13-2009 - 6:26pm

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Registered: 10-22-2008
Tue, 01-13-2009 - 7:08pm

Hi......


I'm going to be firm in my wording because I'm usually such a push over, but this is an easy call.