Need some good advice

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Registered: 04-30-2010
Need some good advice
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Fri, 05-07-2010 - 11:38am

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Registered: 01-23-2010
Fri, 05-07-2010 - 1:30pm

What should I do at this point? I don't want to let this go. He claims to be happily married, but I don't believe if you're happily married you let yourself get in this situation. I know I'm not super happily married which is why I did what I did. Any advice??


I really think you need to let this go. You are setting yourself up to be in a bad situation. He has already told and showed you that he doesn't feel comfortable and you kept pursuing him. Don't kid yourself, men can be very happy and have an A. You are a woman who is throwing herself at him. He knows your DH and your sister and her H. This can get really ugly. I believe that your A is way too close to home (JMHO).

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Registered: 12-03-2009
Fri, 05-07-2010 - 2:26pm

Try to let it go and leave him alone.


My situation is somewhat similar.

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Registered: 04-27-2010
Fri, 05-07-2010 - 3:47pm

Oh girl...like stated above, if you can let this go, do...for your own sanity :)


If you pursue, chase, entice, etc....some nasty repercussions could be headed your way:


1) He'll start telling people you're a psycho stalker :) (you don't want to go there...)


2) So he takes the "bait" (I apologize if that sounds crude) and goes along for few trysts...then he resents the HE** out of you b/c of how you've caused (and I say that knowing he's a big boy and can make his own decisions...but sometimes men can't turn it down in the "heat of the moment"

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-24-2009
Fri, 05-07-2010 - 8:18pm

I think you need to take a few steps back and walk away.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-30-2010
Fri, 05-07-2010 - 8:30pm
Thank you for your words of wisdom, though it's hard to hear. I hate to think I'm trying to trick him, but it does sound like that I'm sure. The problem is it started out to be just a physical attraction, but as time has gone on
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Registered: 05-03-2010
Sun, 05-09-2010 - 12:05am
Trust me, I know it's hard.

anotherseyes