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| Tue, 04-20-2004 - 3:07pm |
Background... I have posted before on this board but it has been about half a year. I am still wild about my MM (long distance). Well the father of my child (who is 22mon) just asked me to marry him. I said yes, not because I am wild about him, but because I love him, known him for 18 years, and the father of my child. Now I say that I love him, but it is different between the father of my baby and my MM. I think of my MM constently (btw is that normal?) and durning time with my bf. So in order that I can be wild with my new fiance, I want to break it up with my MM. But I don't. I feel like it is what I need to do, but not what I want. I already talked to him regarding us, and he said that this relationship is not fair to me... But I would rather have this relationship then not. I am just so confused. Between the thought of losing him, nightmares about the marrage, and stress about getting my own home, I have just about lost it. I know that this "should" be in the board where you are trying to break your A. But I am not to sure if that is what I want to do. I just really need some advise from a 3rd party. TIA. All takes on the matter more then welcome.
Thanks. And please excuse the spelling errors.

Edited 4/24/2004 4:23 pm ET ET by julietsfate
you need to figure out what you want for your and your son's futures. really and truly think about it. if you are not in love with someone, don't get married. for any reason. and if you are already in an A, the marriage would be doomed anyway.
put off all definite marriage plans (setting a date, wedding details, etc.) until you figure out whether you want to stay with your BF and really give the R a solid try and break off with your MM because as long as you are involved with a third party, you will never get a clear idea of what you want and need in life.
simplify your life and think about what you really want! focus on your future. and make yourself happy. those nightmares will then disappear!!
good luck, honey.
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