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| Mon, 05-10-2004 - 11:55am |
Fast forward to a few weeks ago. W discovered the affair. Keep in mind we had been to counseling once, and me on three other occasions as she wouldn’t go. I was honest with W and told her I just can’t see myself spending the rest of my life with her. At first she seemed to want to work things out, but has since changed her mind and wants me out. It is killing me knowing I will soon no longer be a part of my kid’s daily lives. I’m so confused because the environment they are in now is less than ideal, but it’s not really hostile either (at least most of the time). However, when it is, it does get ugly. Also, MW seems very distant and she hasn’t been communicating with me as much as she usually does. She sez nothing is wrong, but I think I know her better than that. Maybe I’m over analyzing her, but it’s unusual to say the least.
I can say this was inevitable since I have been micrometers from moving out before, but this time it seems for real. I know I have to leave for me and no one else, I’m so scared that my children are going to be really messed up by all this. I feel really alone right now and could use some words of support, advice, whatever.
Thanks

All I can say is hang in there. Do what you need to do to take care of yourself. No doubt this will be difficult for everyone - you, your W, your kids, the OW, etc. But everyone will get through it. Stay strong. The last time I heard from MM he told me to keep my chin up. I'm trying. I hope you'll try too.
Peace
GB2
Just do your best to support them emotionally. My father passed away at the age of 43 (9 years ago). After his passing I remember telling friends "my dad and I had a close relationship and he was always there for me." I guess in my mind the divorce was the best thing they could have done for us.
Elf
PLEASE hang in there. I know things are bad right now but they WILL get better. And thank you for giving me some insight as to what MM might be feeling. I wish I could wave my magic wand and make everything better for all of us. :o(
GB2