Need suggestions!

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-10-2003
Need suggestions!
4
Thu, 12-04-2003 - 2:41am
I would like to be able to get away for a night ( or a day) or a weekend with the MM I am seeing, but he is afraid that his wife will find out. What are some things that you have tried to get out with out the wife knowing?
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-23-2003
Thu, 12-04-2003 - 9:47am
My OM and I typically are only able to steal a few hours together at a time. Our schedules just never seem to work out for us to have longer than that. Weekends my DH has been out of town, which isnt often, OM is trapped by other obligations.

The more I think about it though we are less likely to have to worry about damage control or excuses as to where we were for larger time frames - this way we dont even get asked...

Trust me when I say sometimes it's just best not to push it. My DH was outta town in Chicago for two nights and wasnt supposed to be home until Saturday night. OM and I had originally planned a night away for that Friday night...something came up for OM and so we changed our plans to having him meet me in the hammock in my front yard at midnight Friday night...well at 11:30 just as I was starting to get ready for my midnight radavous guess who pulled in the driveway!?!?!?! He came home early to surprise me. Sunday was our anniversary and our plans to go away Saturday night were disrupted by his trip to Chicago...what a disaster that could have been had he arrived 30 minutes, or worse yet 45 minutes later when OM and I were shaggin in the hammock!!! UGH!!!!! Everything happens for a reason so dont push it!!!

Small amounts of time are better than no time...

cl-liberalgirl

callmeliberal@hotmail.com

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-09-2003
Thu, 12-04-2003 - 9:58am
I think if you were going to try an overnight it would be up to MM to figure something out. My MM's wife goes away for business occassionally. And when she does we have met on occassion in the evening, but like Liberal says, only for a few hours. Any more would probably be asking for trouble. I'm sure she would be calling home later at night to check on him, like spouses tend to do when they're away from home. Its hard to explain where you are around midnight when you're supposed to be home by the phone!!

We have a good arrangement, we usually meet during workdays for awhile in the afternoon (like we're going to do today!!). Its the safest thing for us, so whatever works ...

Take care (and I mean that literally)!!
xxxx
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-12-2003
Thu, 12-04-2003 - 10:07am
i'm sure your MM can think of just as many ideas for getting out overnite as we can here, but he seems to feel strongly that he is afraid his wife will find out and so i think it would be unwise for you to push him or for you to come to him with all kinds of ideas he can use to sneak an overnite past his wife...he's making it clear he is not wanting to spend the nite with you and so i can't imagine what good it would be to suggest to him ideas you've heard from this group.

just my $.02.

honey

    

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-02-2003
Thu, 12-04-2003 - 10:28am
keep in mind that I haven't yet started a full flege A w/ my oh so desirable MM, but wouldn't a business trip work or an outing w/ some men from work? just trying to make suggestions

Michelle (Mic)