Need Support Tonight

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Registered: 05-26-2012
Need Support Tonight
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Wed, 08-15-2012 - 5:23pm
I was out of town till late yesterday for 15 days. I was able to see my AP for 30 minutes last night. We are planning an all day meeting for Friday, but today he is leaving in the afternoon to go to a concert with his W. They are spending the night at a hotel and leaving the kids home. I don't like it. It gives me this horrible feeling in my stomach.
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Registered: 05-09-2012
Wed, 08-15-2012 - 5:39pm

(((hugs)))  Doesn't seem fair does it?  But you have to remember as much as we don't want to think it we are the OW/OM.   I wish I had some more words of support but if you need to vent I'll check in later on tonight and make sure your okay!

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Registered: 05-26-2012
Wed, 08-15-2012 - 6:08pm
Thanks. It would be easier if I knew exactly what I was to him. He says he has everything with his wife and life. Says he doesn't need me. And says that should make me feel good because it means he wants me. But I would feel better knowing there was some void I was filling for him. Some way I am fulfilling his life.
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Registered: 05-09-2012
Thu, 08-16-2012 - 12:03am

Yeah good luck finding out!  I was thinking the same thing about mine tonight too.  Why can't he just say "hey I care really deeply about you"  I don't want a damn commitment I just want to know I mean something more to him than a quick screw.

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Registered: 03-30-2010
Thu, 08-16-2012 - 10:42am
Hi Agent,
Why does it matter if you knew exactly what you mean to him? It's still an affair and you still have to play your position as the OW. They will go out on dates and do the things that married people do. Yes I know it doesn't feel good but you knew this going in. Him telling you what you mean to him doesn't change anything. You are filling some sort of void that he's missing, within himself. I'm saying this because you seem to have some expectations, you want to mean more and at the end of the day....it is, what it is....

 


Much peace & Love,


Rayne


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Registered: 10-09-2010
Thu, 08-16-2012 - 11:32am
I have to agree with Rayne. Its part of the A territory. It's sucks but it's just part of it. You have to do your best to get a grip on the fact that those events will continually happen or you will drive yourself mad.