Need to talk

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Registered: 01-21-2004
Need to talk
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Wed, 01-21-2004 - 5:21pm
I need someone to talk to. I've been in my relationship for 5 years. So much has gone wrong. I need to talk to someone, but I don't feel safe in this environment.

I just don't understand how so much could have gone so wrong when everything was so friggin right in the beginning.
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Registered: 01-21-2004
In reply to: alwaysaware
Thu, 01-22-2004 - 1:11pm

alwaysaware, welcome to the board, sweetie.

CL-Gurlfriend50

Co-CL of My Affair Support Board

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Registered: 09-16-2003
In reply to: alwaysaware
Thu, 01-22-2004 - 1:20pm
alwaysaware - you are welcome to send me an email through my profile if you need to talk. Please let know how you are doing today. Take Care.
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Registered: 05-22-2003
In reply to: alwaysaware
Thu, 01-22-2004 - 1:43pm
I'm sorry to hear you're having trouble. My 4yr EMA is troubled as well. Maybe I can help. I can certainly relate.
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Registered: 01-21-2004
In reply to: alwaysaware
Thu, 01-22-2004 - 5:53pm
I don't know what has gone wrong. At what point it started. He just started showing less and less interest in me. In the beginning this man was so devoted to me. So committed to making me feel like a queen. Now he can barely talk to me in a civil manner for any long period of time. My feelings haven't changed, but his clearly have, though he denies it. It's just hard. I know what I need to do...just doing it has proved to be next to impossible.
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Registered: 05-22-2003
In reply to: alwaysaware
Fri, 01-23-2004 - 10:25am
I'm sorry to hear what you're going through. I know exactly how you feel and it hurts like hell. It sounds like you tried to talk to him about your feelings. I certainly did with my MM and things would get better for a short time and then I was "neglected" all over again. I told him straight out that I didn't understand why he wanted to even be in this R with me to begin with. When I think on it now, I guess he really never said "why" he wanted to continue, but he always said he did indeed want to continue. I finally left the R a few weeks ago because I couldn't take the disrespect anymore. It really is disrespectful when someone ignores concerns that you do bring to their attention and ignores your feelings and hurt completely. Maybe that is something you should consider, hard as it is. If you're like me, you're "alone" whether you stay or go anyway. Don't let him think he can take advantage of you anymore. But, if you haven't talked to him about it, do so first. I believe communication is the key to any relationship. The problem on my side, was that I was the only one communicating. I feel good that I tried my best and have to let it go at that. I'm sure he knows where he faile me. Good luck. If you need to chat more, you can email me at twiceisnice4me@yahoo.com. I'll listen any time.