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| Fri, 11-07-2003 - 7:29pm |
I found these boards searching for information on relationship troubles with my BF. I have been lurking on the relationship boards for couple of weeks and this board has been a life saver for me. I cannot tell how much I am happy to share my situation to you. I don't have anybody other than my MM who knows about our A. We have been in this situation for two years now and I cannot tell you how much I love this man. However, earlier this year we had a unfortunate incident in our lives that we had to cool things off. His wife spied upon us and read all my emails to him. She confronted him and he had to deny, deny and deny our affair. We stopped seeing each other to makse sure his wife isn't suspicious. We have kept in contact only via email which is driving me nuts as I long to see him in flesh and blood again. I however cannot understand one thing - he blamed all of the affair on me and called me a stalker/pursuer who was insanely after him inspite of his "previous warnings" He even filed a complaint against me with the police which I had to fight. My BF came to know of all this and he was angry for getting myself into trouble and wanted me to "behave". It was awful the entire time until the whole situation blew itself over. The MM is now planing to separate from his wife. He also wants me to leave the BF and move in with him. I find it very difficult to trust him after all the pain he caused me by denying his role in it and blaming it all on me. Why should I trust a man who would do a come turnabout when caught and deny it all. He said it was was make sure his wife wouldn't make his leaving the M nightmare, but somehow I don't get the whole picture. Why file the complaint and make me go through all the trouble? What scares me is that he seemed to drop me like a hot potato when it suited him and wants me to do the same with the BF? I do have a lot unresolved of issues with the BF but that is whole different story. This MM has not given me any reason to believe that he will be my rock when I leave the BF,but still he gets upset when I can't make my mind about leaving BF. Can I believe him and take a risk? Should I trust him on this? Is this how affairs are - confusing and sometimes painful? Any suggestions on my behalf? Thanks in advance.
Red

Good luck and the very best to you. Let us know what happens--
JB
P.S. If you haven't already, read "teenbean"s thread below--much the same situation as yours--
Whatever you decide, it should be what makes you happy. We'll be here to support you either way. I wish you lots of luck.
mental and emotional exhaustion is signalling you to pay attention to yourself.
jmo, but i'd RUN in the other direction from that MM.
good luck and be careful,
gurl