nerves.......!

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Registered: 12-17-2003
nerves.......!
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Sat, 01-03-2004 - 12:29am
Im going to finally met my MM for lunch this week and Im getting very nervous! Last time he had business and didnt make it and hopefully this time it will all work out.. But Im like scared! What if we dont really hit it off in person like we do online?!?!.. We met briefly once.. for like 5 minutes.. hi/goodbye type thing in the dark! SO now its deffinate that we are gonna meet on thursday and Im freaking out!... How did ya'll handle the first encounter?!?!! Am i nuts for being nervous?.... thanks! vix
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Registered: 01-02-2004
In reply to: vixen0000
Sat, 01-03-2004 - 11:02am
I've never met anyone online before, so I really don't have any input on that end, but I would just try to relax and be yourself. I know it must be hard since you haven't really met in person before, but just try to look forward to your time together. Enjoy and keep us posted!
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Registered: 12-25-2003
In reply to: vixen0000
Sat, 01-03-2004 - 1:08pm
Yeah, I know what it is to be a bundle of nerves before the "first" meeting. Been there and done that. You'll do fine. Enjoy and keep us posted.
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Registered: 09-09-2003
In reply to: vixen0000
Sat, 01-03-2004 - 2:28pm
Hi Vix, I met my lover online. We exchanged pic's after a few weeks, so we knew what each other looked like so there wouldn't be any (unpleasant) surprises. Actually, we met for a liquid lunch and I got there first, I had asked him what vehicle he would be driving so when he pulled up out front, I knew that must be him. And when he got out, WOW!! He was WAY more sexy looking than his pic!! (I've got a silver fox FYI). Anyhow, there was a definite chemistry between us right from the start, and we're now going into the 3rd year of our relationship. Good luck to you!!

Dusty
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Registered: 01-04-2004
In reply to: vixen0000
Sun, 01-04-2004 - 4:43pm
he's going to be just as nervous as you are!
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Registered: 05-24-2003
In reply to: vixen0000
Sun, 01-04-2004 - 6:20pm
Hey Vixen, good luck on your upcoming meeting; hope it goes well!

With my OM and I, in the beginning, I just let him take the lead. I was very upfront with him. I told him what I was looking for with this A and that what I was doing was in direct opposition to everything I knew to be right and wrong and so he was going to have to get it started. Which he did. Gradually, as I've gotten more comfortable with him and we've developed an intimate relationship (we still have never had sex!), I'm a bit more forward, but still not much. My forwardness is in asking him over when I think he might not otherwise offer, that sort of thing. And once we've gotten going, I have few inhibitions. ;-) But the actual getting into bed part has always been his call. (And that's soooo not like me.)

I say keep the lines of communication open and if you're nervous, say so. Say, "I'm really nervous about this, but I really want it, too. Can you help me with these first few minutes of awkwardness???"

HTH

Lucky

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Registered: 12-30-2003
In reply to: vixen0000
Sun, 01-04-2004 - 9:27pm
Hiya Vix!! I too met my love online. We chatted online, exchanged pics and talked on the phone almost daily for a month before we met. We are a few hundred miles apart so we picked an exit between us, being in constant contact en route. He found a place first and told me where he was, and I knew what he was driving. When I pulled in, I saw him standing there by his car, and I could see he was as excited (and perhaps nervous) as I was. He walked around to my side of my van and I got out. We looked at one another, stared straight into one anothers eyes and without saying a word, I leaned to him and we kissed. The kind of kiss you feel from your toes, where your insides turn out and your entire body tingles. Even now as I type this, I sit here smiling, and have those wonderful little excited butterflies in my stomach. We kissed for what seemed like an eternity, and when we finally pulled back, we said hello. It was incredible and a kiss I will never forget. We went into the restaurant and sat at the bar. We sat, kissed, held hands and just stared. We actually never did eat lunch. It was an awesome first meeting.

Just relax when you meet him. Enjoy it and do what feels right and natural for you. I agree with a previous post, he will likely be as nervous as you. Just enjoy one anothers company. This will be a day you remember always. Best of luck and have a great time!!!