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nerves.......!
| Sat, 01-03-2004 - 12:29am |
Im going to finally met my MM for lunch this week and Im getting very nervous! Last time he had business and didnt make it and hopefully this time it will all work out.. But Im like scared! What if we dont really hit it off in person like we do online?!?!.. We met briefly once.. for like 5 minutes.. hi/goodbye type thing in the dark! SO now its deffinate that we are gonna meet on thursday and Im freaking out!... How did ya'll handle the first encounter?!?!! Am i nuts for being nervous?.... thanks! vix

Dusty
With my OM and I, in the beginning, I just let him take the lead. I was very upfront with him. I told him what I was looking for with this A and that what I was doing was in direct opposition to everything I knew to be right and wrong and so he was going to have to get it started. Which he did. Gradually, as I've gotten more comfortable with him and we've developed an intimate relationship (we still have never had sex!), I'm a bit more forward, but still not much. My forwardness is in asking him over when I think he might not otherwise offer, that sort of thing. And once we've gotten going, I have few inhibitions. ;-) But the actual getting into bed part has always been his call. (And that's soooo not like me.)
I say keep the lines of communication open and if you're nervous, say so. Say, "I'm really nervous about this, but I really want it, too. Can you help me with these first few minutes of awkwardness???"
HTH
Lucky
Just relax when you meet him. Enjoy it and do what feels right and natural for you. I agree with a previous post, he will likely be as nervous as you. Just enjoy one anothers company. This will be a day you remember always. Best of luck and have a great time!!!