Nervous

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Registered: 01-30-2009
Nervous
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Sun, 03-01-2009 - 7:18pm

So, my story is simple. MW having an A with a S man who lives several hours away.

Started this fall and since we've only seen each other 3X, we have only had OS no IC. So, I am 1 month away from my next trip to be with him and we have discussed the topic of crossing the line and are planning to.

So, can you prepare me? Help, I want to be with him but do not want it to ruin my M. I have no plans on leaving my M for this OM and other than that there isn't many other good reasons to leave. I know there is something missing from my M, hence why I'm in an A.

So, how can I control my feelings for my H and not let this get in the way. Could be a silly question but I read many of you enjoying both your M and your A. Please help.

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Registered: 02-28-2009
In reply to: icandoit2009
Sun, 03-01-2009 - 8:11pm
Aright, so I'm new here as well as of last night, and I'm kind of where you are only at that "crossed the line" part.
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Registered: 06-19-2008
In reply to: icandoit2009
Sun, 03-01-2009 - 10:21pm

I've been in your situation. All the way down to being a MW in an A with a SM who lives a few hours away. I also had no intention of leaving my marriage.

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Registered: 08-30-2008
In reply to: icandoit2009
Sun, 03-01-2009 - 10:29pm

I was going to email you to say that I completely understand your situation and feel the same way about so many of the things you've said, but I see that you've blocked emails.


Just know you are not alone.

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Registered: 02-28-2009
In reply to: icandoit2009
Sun, 03-01-2009 - 10:44pm
Thanks so much--actually, being new here I didn't realize I had a setting blocking e-mails.
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Registered: 01-29-2009
In reply to: icandoit2009
Mon, 03-02-2009 - 1:54pm

jgirl75 did an excellent job of describing the emotional turmoil involved in an A.

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Registered: 01-30-2009
In reply to: icandoit2009
Mon, 03-02-2009 - 3:20pm

Thanks jgirl & everyone else. You know how it is when you hear what you don't want to hear. It may be one of those things where I have to learn the hard way :) Thanks for the advice, I really want to prepare myself so I don't get into a situation that I can't handle.

I actually think that I'm past the emotional turmoil stuff. I went through all of that in January and think I have my head screwed on straight now. I was as big of a mess as you all describe back in January - wow, did that suck. Reality has hit me and I'm eating my cake now. I think the issue will be if I get caught which is why I'm done with this A after this next visit. Problem is, that I cannot get myself out of this visit with him. A few other people are involved and people would be upset... Though I can choose not to cross the line, which is what I may end up doing.