Never any time...

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Mon, 02-16-2004 - 2:37pm
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Edited 2/22/2004 8:03:56 AM ET by mankella

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Mon, 02-16-2004 - 3:54pm
Just so you know you are not alone . I have the same EXACT problem .

In fact reading your post almost made me THINK is your MM my MM ?? ;-)

I mean what you described here , how he talks how he behaves is what my MM does too .

but , We live in different states .

I also emailed my MM questions , he replied with small email ignoring my questions .

I feel that when someone really wants something they will always make the time for it .

So when he doesn't make the time to call or email it makes me feel - ok he doesn't want this anymore .

When I ask him would you like to end this he says no .... I just don't get it .

I just hope it makes you feel better that you are not the only one . ;-)

xoxo ViperDiva

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Mon, 02-16-2004 - 5:15pm
I understand what both of you are going through. My MM is very busy with work and what little free time he actually has. Sometimes, getting to talk to him for any length of time is difficult. Luckily, we IM each other frequently, but I still crave the sound of his voice. I think that is just a price I have to pay for being involved with him...but no matter how short our conversations are, I cherish each and every one.

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Mon, 02-16-2004 - 6:20pm
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Edited 2/22/2004 8:04:53 AM ET by mankella

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Mon, 02-16-2004 - 6:33pm
KEEP IT SIMPLE!!!Where are the rules ladies and gents...

Mankella,

HE is a guy!!! Men do not have enough capacity to think about taking a longer route (sorry guys, there are a few that could)... I can understand the anger of not having a card.. much what I felt from DH... if I counted for him, why didn't he send me one. AND... I agree with NR, I have very few talks with a voice.. that is LDR downside. (MAybe he was so stressed, and wanted a better setting to talk to you.???) BUT I cherish even 30 minutes on IM if I can have them. It is time we ARE 'together'. Oh god, when I hear his voice, we both have a hard time talking and get so nervous, it becomes sometimes impossible.. Remember, cherish what you can, games serve only to hurt both of you in the end, if you know what I mean.. MEN are men, do not forget that.. LOL.. and relax, you do mean something to that MM... And I have wrote you again on the other trail.. Most welcome to write me.. if you haven't.. MAY find out that you hate the Dutch too! LOL Mitzy

RELAX KEEP IT SIMPLE...

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Edited 2/22/2004 8:05:27 AM ET by mankella
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Tue, 02-17-2004 - 11:34am
Craving his voice... oh yes! how pitiful is this? I saved one of his very sweet voice mail messages (on the work phone of course) so I could play it back occasionally -- okay, okay... it's high school relived *smile*
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Tue, 02-17-2004 - 12:23pm
It's not pitiful at all. I love the sound of my MM's voice...he sighs when he talks at times and it absolutely gives me goosebumps. I've told him this and he just laughs at me. His laugh...oh, don't get me going..... Wanting to hear his voice...just to talk to him....it's gotten so bad for me that when my cell phone rings and it's my H's name....I could just cry. :) Okay...maybe it is pitiful!

Hugs to you!!!

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Tue, 02-17-2004 - 12:38pm
Nothing wrong with high school relived ;-)

I do it too . Only problem is messages are erased after 30 days ;-( He doesn't call that much like he used to , to have another message .

A girlfriend of mine who isn't in an A .She is in a regular R . talks to her Boyfriend 10 times a day , sees him all the time and still also saves his phone messages .....so with that said I don't think it is pitiful we save our messages to listen to when we miss our MM

xoxo ViperDiva

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Tue, 02-17-2004 - 1:35pm
Sometimes I think , ok maybe it is just a guy thing . Us women are different .

But when he wants to , he knows how to act and what he is suppose to do .So I start to wonder if saying "it is a guy thing" is just an excuse !?


Although my MM is on my mind . I still continue everyday to do all my "me" things .

I haven't heard from my MM since Feb. 5th .....I was going to give him 2 months and see if he contacts me ,..............but my patients is growing thin ;-(

So I thought ok , I'll give it a month . But everyday I am so tempted to email him .

Because I really want to know what excuse he will have for not sending me an email or calling me to wish me Happy Birthday . Everyday I try to let another day go by so I can say -" well a month has gone by , haven't heard from you . Are you alive ? If you wanted to end this A all you had to do was say so ! "


But it is so hard waiting , I am really burning up inside . I am really hurt about my B-day . It makes me feel he doesn't care at all . Even if he says he does care .

He has done stuff like this to me before . I told him , You know you really have a funny way to show you care .He said nothing . and I think in my mind, geez if he is with his wife like that no wonder she doesn't want to have sex with him .


I don't even understand how the sex between us is so passionate and hot when he isn't even my type . I like guys who are outgoing and who will talk about what is on their mind . I like them open and funny . He is not like that at all. Actually my MM seems kinda boring , works a lot , watches news , and plays golf .What a boring life .He seems always so serious ...... But yet when I am with him I have a great time , not just the sex also talking to him .............I just don't understand it and that also drives me crazy .

Help me , tell me I should wait longer to email him , to keep him wondering , make him miss me . Keep him wondering if I am thinking about him or missing him ....... ....if he even cares . But then why would he always ask me when we do talk - Do you miss me ? My MM is the biggest puzzle I ever met . I never had someone who sent me so many mixed signals . Maybe it is because he doesn't know himself what he wants . Well he better make up his mind soon because yes the price of this is getting too high and I start to wonder if it is even worth it .


Mankella , hope things get better for you , many hugs to you to help you get through this . Thanks for your hugs . Hope you had a fun "me" day ;-)

xoxo ViperDiva

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Tue, 02-17-2004 - 2:45pm
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Edited 2/22/2004 8:06:09 AM ET by mankella

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