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| Wed, 05-05-2004 - 11:42pm |
HE early 40's and married 20 years, ME mid 30's and married 10 years. I first saw him in a photograph on the desk of the HR Supervisor at the office I work at. Thinking back, I think his being handsome, made me take notice,yet he didn't really seem like my type. He was hired on as a Supervisor for the night shift, and I am a Manager for the day shift. I relieve his shift. He sends his staff home, and usually he stays around to finish up a few of his last minute tasks before he goes home. Which gives us time alone, due to the fact that my staff does not start coming in until 8:00am.
Our jobs are very stressful (as managers) - so at first, it was his support and understanding in regards to jobs related issues, that I grew to appreciate. Well unfortunately an innocent (or maybe not-so-innocent) "pass" was made by him, to me. And normally, I would have been offended by such a thing, and at the time when it happened, I politely said "exscuse me" (although I did not invoke the point of contact, actually HE should have been the one to say it) - and I sort of ignored it and went on with my work, and so did he. Well at the point the sparks began to fly between us. I have never experienced such a strong physical attraction for someone before. And like I mentioned before, I usually do not tolerate such behavior from ANYONE. So what makes this guy so special???
So I am aware that there is alot of LUST happening along with the emotional support and friendship that we share. So, I am trying to keep my head "out of the clouds" when it comes to him. He and I have discussed our feelings of desire for one another, yet, we have decided that we should not "get physical", but I think it's our committment to keeping things cool that's making our desire burn stronger.
When either of us are not at work, we are tending our own personal family matters. But almost every chance we get(away of our spouses) we are on our cell phones talking to each another. At times, it seems as if we are both almost too busy between home and work to even "get together", yet if it does happen it will most likely be deliberate and extremely intense. So, I will just continue to move forward in a positive light... yet I don't know how much longer he and I can keep this up.
I'll keep you posted...

sounds liKe your beginning was similar to mine. Although my MM and i met differntly we discussed a lot in the beginning what was happneing between us. We set our own ground rules. We didn't say we didn't want to get physical, just that being intimate probably wasn't a good idea. We too did and still have limited chances to get toegther due to work and family. After a year and a half i am somewhat used to that. We too talk almost everyday at least by email if not by the phone. It has been a positive force in my life. Now however our relationship has progressed. Even though we have still not been intimate we talk about it all the time and he has caved and would want to. I am the one holding back b/c of the emotional baggage it would bring. I already care more than I should so I am trying not to complicate things more than they are. Who knows what will happen. Two things I want to mention..no matter whether or not you are physical your relationship can and probably will be a roller coaster at times. The highs are great but the lows will pop up too. Just be prepared. Also, keep in mind the longer you are in this the harder it will be not to have a physical relationship. Just think things through thoroughly for yourself and talk with him about it before anything happens. That has been a great help, Mm knows my quirks and what I need as I do him all through communication.
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