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Mon, 12-29-2003 - 5:40pm
Hi new to the board.. been flirting with a MW sister in law.. she is older than me.. but has been giving me vibes that she would like more.. i really like her.. and I am a MM.. we can keep things underwraps..we have been talking online for a long time and I would love to move to the next level.. I spend alot of my day thinking about her .. anyone with any thoughts they can shre with me?

thanks.. L.

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Registered: 08-23-2003
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Wed, 12-31-2003 - 1:55pm
I'm in the kind of R you're looking into (in-law). have been for 3&1/2 years. At first, it was fun and exciting. couldn't believe what I was doing. I know we both didn't know what we were getting into. 3&1/2 years later. It still is pretty intense. We love each other very much, but for me it's been very emotional.

At first, doing family gatherings everything was cool and I thought I can handle this, :). Even now, I'm still "handling it", but there are times when it hurts so much to see him doing the father and husband thing during gatherings.

We do get "our time" together, but that's very tricky in itself.

I love him with everything I have, but I know how dangerous this is.

In the time we've been involved we have had many talks about the consequences of being found out and on that I have tried to end it more then once, for fear of what would happen. The thing is we both don't want to end it. We love each other very much so on that we continue with our R.

There are times, however I ask myself how could I have started this with someone so close to the family because there are days when I hear about what "they" are doing, much more details then I want or need to know and I find myself getting mad and jealous so that the next time I talk to him. I'm already upset, lol.

And then I lllooonnnngggg for the simple days of just being able to look or hear about him and just be happy.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
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Thu, 01-01-2004 - 12:07am
Just read all the posts on this one. There's no mystery here, I333a... you are bound and determined to do this, and people here can give you great advice until the cows come home and you'll ignore all of it. And certainly, you'll end up in the position that was predicted by everyone who posted replies to you. So... I'm inclined to tell you to run like hell, but it would be a waste of my breath and you will do it anyway, and you will destroy your marriage and your wife's family anyway, so why did you bother posting? Just a rhetorical question. Not to be mean, because I (as much as anyone) knows how hard it is, but there is no hope for convincing you to NOT do what it is you are intent on doing.

I'll guarantee you that relatively soon, you will feel differently than you do right now. And you will need to deal with it then. Best of luck to you,

Kari

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Thu, 01-01-2004 - 8:47pm
hi Kari.. thanks for your post... your probably right .. maybe i am just venting and trying to grasp at straws

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Registered: 03-27-2003
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Fri, 01-02-2004 - 1:12pm
And that's OK. You are at least thinking about it, or you wouldn't have posted.

I know something of how you feel, and I do know that those intense feelings don't last, and all too soon you have to deal with the 'reality' of your situation. And your particular situation is a bomb waiting to go off. If you can be strong enough to diffuse it now, and run the other way, you'll be so much better off.

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