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| Tue, 12-23-2003 - 7:00pm |
I have just started my second affair, only days after the first one ended. I swore I wouldn't do it again, but here it is. The first one i fell for this one for now is nothing but sexual. Though we haven't gone all the way the fantasy letters have started. He comes by every morning on his way to work and we meet outside my house in the dark. Why do I jump right in to another one? We had been flirting back and forth for months and I decided it was time for me to meet him, so I am the one who started it. Please help me figure out what I'm doing?

I had an EMA in my first marriage with my current husband and although he is my perfect match for a life partner only a few short months after our marriage I got involved with another man. I to always said "NEVER AGAIN, THIS ISNT WHO I AM" but maybe it is...I seriously think that having an EMA is like an addiction...as much as I hate to admit it, if my EMA ended tomorrow I already have other prospects Id seek out like a crack habit ... UGH!!!
cl-liberalgirl
callmeliberal@hotmail.com
whatever it is, stop trying to analyze it and enjoy yourself. it's not rocket science. don't beat yourself up because you're having another A, it just is! AND it takes two to tango so obviously the OM is a willing partner.
relax and enjoy it.
gurl
i can't answer for liberal, but i would imagine that by "perfect life partner" she means a man who compliments her in most ways. but everything changes, doesn't it.
no one person can satisfy every need in one person. that's why we have friends, family, and flirtations. and affairs!
gurl
Edited 2/18/2004 10:34:41 AM ET by gurlfriend50
what you said makes alot of sense. yes, i know that we don't live in a perfect world and nobody is perfect. it's just hard to sometimes think about why we're having an A...what's missing in our life and why can't one person/man fulfill everything for us??? guess if that were the case then, like you said, A's wouldn't exist. i know this, it can be a crazy emotional ride, but some of us like the craziness of the ride; guess that's why we have A's.
on your last note, unlike you, i would rather be with my OM than my H...sad for my H and our M, but it's true. thanks for your response and happy holidays to ALL!!!
people who need other people are the luckiest people in the world!! i believe that's a song, but still, it works for real life. that why there's dating and having guy friends and girl friends!! imagine ONLY having one person to talk to!! no way, jose!
so you take care and have a great holiday - Merry Christmas!!
gurl