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| Fri, 04-30-2004 - 11:56pm |
I have been in an EMA for 6 months now, and many times have thought twice about what i'm doing - but can't stand to be with out him, so i have decided not to end it. I'm really crazy about this guy and he says the same to me. Always talks about "if we were together could he be enough for me?" I know he is concerned because we are both cheating on our spouses, he feels what would stop me if i got bored with him and found some one else. We both know that neither of our marriages are great but they aren't terrible either, we just are not happy in them, so the possiblity is there that we could end our marriages (he was separated for about a year, a few years back). We work together and almost every night meet for either a quicky or kisses. I like the way things are going now but know i want more from him in the future - to have a future with him. i just don't know if i could wait too long, that is another issue I'm 45 and he's 31, of course i don't look my age, when we first started he really thought i was 32, we have discussed the age issue and we are ok with it. I just know that i would really like to date him to see if we could have a future together, so i'm i just dreaming and should not think that we could have a future together or should i just enjoy what time we have together?
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| Sat, 05-01-2004 - 1:41am |
I understand what you are going through totally. My OM and I worked together. He is younger than I. I am married but in a bad one - not miserable, but not happy, due to years of emotional and verbal abuse. I fell in love with my OM - a love that I have never felt before. And, yes, I'm scared of what the future will hold. And, Im sure he has thought about that 'once a cheater always a cheater' issue. But he knows that I didn't go out looking for one - he just fell in my lap like he had been saved all for me. I know now that I was meant to meet him to realize what happiness was all about. I have made the decision to end my M - we have no children and are both under 30. We have our whole lives ahead of us and deserve to be happy. Me being happy means that I will start a path with my OM...and whereever it takes us, good or bad, I will not regret what I am doing. I'm living by my heart for once, and it feels wonderful. I don't know your M situation (kids, etc), so I wouldn't suggest D just yet. But, don't let this one go. If it is meant to be in your life for a long time, then you will come to realize that with time. My OM and I knew each other and flirted for about three months before becoming intimate - its now been about 8-9 months in the A, and I can't wait for many many more :-) FMH6
| Sat, 05-01-2004 - 1:26pm |
Thanks for your reply, I hope the best for you. I plan on taking each day as it comes, I have 2 kids (5&10) and don't want to upset their lives at this point and my H is a good dad. I have known my OM for about 3 years now and over the last year we have flirted with each other by email. We have already said the L word to each other and have expressed the desire to be together as a couple. But we both don't want to do something rash and regret it later. So for now we are careful and are together as much as we can be.
