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Sun, 03-08-2009 - 12:05pm
Hi everyone just here to vent, get advice, and provide feedback to others. I am a MW for the last 9 years and many kids are involved. When I 1st got married I was so much in love with H and would never cheat so I thought. I also got married very young.
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Registered: 08-19-2008
Mon, 03-09-2009 - 1:52pm

You have a lot of issues to sort out. You're actions are very selfish and have no concern for others even though you say you love them. Maybe a good Psychologist/Therapist should be your first option rather than running from one A to another.

There's something missing within you that you're trying to fill with all these A's. Be careful you're not just in love with the chemical rush our brain releases when we engage in illicit activities or the excitement of having a new partner. Unless and until you figure out what it is within yourself you're trying to fill and be able to fill it yourself, you're bound to repeat your behavior no matter who you end up with.

I would also suggest a good MC (marriage counseling) for you and your H so that it will give him an understanding that the problem is you. It would also get him to realized that even if he puts you in a cage and never let you out you've already checked-out from the reality of being M and participating in creating a stable and happy life for the kids, therefore, it would be best for him and the kids to let you go. He deserves to be with someone who'll really love him and will be there for him and the kids 100%.

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