NEW TO THIS BOARD - NEW A

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Registered: 08-19-2010
NEW TO THIS BOARD - NEW A
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Thu, 08-19-2010 - 2:52pm

Hello Ladies (or men?)


I am new to Ivillage but was referred here via a friend who has been dealing with the same stuff I have. I am a MW with a mess of a marriage and somewhere along the line, this A started. I have been involved in an A before but years ago and before I was married so I was the single one then. Now, all of a sudden, I have found myself drawn to a special MM. I didn't seek it nor did he but something pulled us together being in the same situations at home. We met at the gym...how cliche, huh?


I know where this will likely lead as Ive been there before - heart broken, hurting, seeking more than he can give, etc.. My marriage has been back and forth and not sure if it may end soon but he has no intentions of leaving his...which is okay for now. This is 2mths new. We have seen each other 2 times (both being merely a PA moment) and tonight will be the 3rd. He lives in another state but was traveling when we met. I just have to say, I am on cloud 9. My stomach is in knots. Im excited about the possibility of a new friendship (okay, okay FWB) and he is the sweetest thing every not to mention wickedly HOT and amazing in bed. Part of me wants to enjoy this high but as I have read many other posts on here, not many seem to be enjoying the "highs" of the A but instead many seem to be ending, etc.. and I remember how low I was last time I went thru this 6 years ago. I think I should walk on egg shells. Anyone else out there just met their AP, still feeling that nervous feeling when you know you are going to see AP?


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Registered: 08-16-2010
Thu, 08-19-2010 - 3:39pm
I still do even after quite a few years together.
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Registered: 03-30-2010
Thu, 08-19-2010 - 4:28pm

I still get nerous when I know we are going to be "together". I get butterflies and my stomach is in knots. When we are alone in a room we can set it on fire. Its that HOT & Intense. I'm convinced thats my drug, that's what I'm addicted to. Addicted to him and how sexual he makes me feel....


 


Much peace & Love,


Rayne


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Registered: 05-21-2010
Thu, 08-19-2010 - 4:53pm
Hi and Welcome to MAS:-) I am a MW in a LDA (10 months), which is now just an EA because of the distance thing. I also recently joined AM and met somoeone on line. We are meeting next week, after many conversations on the phone, emails and texts. My stomach is in knots too...and the anticipation is so exciting. This is what the addictive feelings of an A stem from. Having this kind of high is so amazing!!!
Hope all goes well for you and AP. Keep us posted!
LouLou
LouLou
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Registered: 03-26-2010
Thu, 08-19-2010 - 5:48pm
I think it's good that you've experienced the downside of an A before.
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Registered: 03-27-2010
Thu, 08-19-2010 - 5:59pm

STILL DO!!!!!

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Registered: 03-29-2010
Thu, 08-19-2010 - 8:16pm

Welcome to MAS caliorbust!

Nope, not in the new butterfly stages, but I can totally remember. Wanna hear something corny? I remember fervently thanking God (weird, huh?) that I was a woman, on the nights before I'd see AP... OMG Thank the heavens that be that I am a WOMAN... LMAO!

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Registered: 07-13-2009
Fri, 08-27-2010 - 12:26pm

Hi Cali.

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Registered: 05-17-2003
Fri, 08-27-2010 - 4:16pm

Me too! After three years just the mere site of him gets my heart pounding, and my knees go weak. When we're together, I am so proud that he's with me, it's an awesome feeling. Yes, even when he's ticking me off, I just think WOW.


I love him and I want him all for myself too.....sigh


benska

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Registered: 08-19-2010
Sat, 08-28-2010 - 8:53pm
Hey, will you tell me what state he lives in? Or age range. You got just my mind spinning how many people could be friends or know someones AP on this message board or xAP could have found someone new and that woman is on Ivillage too. Sometimes its a big world, sometimes its small! :) I know we are all around the US and abroad but when you said your xAP was trucker...my guy is in early 30's. Why did it end with your xAP?
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Registered: 07-13-2009
Mon, 08-30-2010 - 8:35pm
Well, I dont have much time now so I will fill you in more later.

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