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Registered: 06-28-2009
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Sun, 06-28-2009 - 8:55am
I am so glad to find this board.
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-13-2009
Sun, 06-28-2009 - 4:44pm

Glad you could find an outlet here. It's hard when we have no one to talk to. I have wanted to have an affair with a man for months now and he came to town and we kissed and almost did, but backed out for a night to think. by the next night, he says he has decided to work on his marriage and use this as a wake up call, but in the mean time he still hung out with me for the next 2 evenings and commented on my appearance. when i confronted him feelings, he says he has feelings but needs to put them away but he stares at me longingly as he says this. so i know what you mean by even without the physical, you still feel like you are having an affair.


I think you have to go with your gut feeling. Life is short and though I understand what people mean when they say they made commitments, if your heart isn't there, then I think you owe it to the other person to fess up or move on. that's where i am right now. i'm doing a lot of thinking over the next few weeks and decide what i want to do, even without thinking things can work with the man i'm really in love with.


good luck!