Glad you could find an outlet here. It's hard when we have no one to talk to. I have wanted to have an affair with a man for months now and he came to town and we kissed and almost did, but backed out for a night to think. by the next night, he says he has decided to work on his marriage and use this as a wake up call, but in the mean time he still hung out with me for the next 2 evenings and commented on my appearance. when i confronted him feelings, he says he has feelings but needs to put them away but he stares at me longingly as he says this. so i know what you mean by even without the physical, you still feel like you are having an affair.
I think you have to go with your gut feeling. Life is short and though I understand what people mean when they say they made commitments, if your heart isn't there, then I think you owe it to the other person to fess up or move on. that's where i am right now. i'm doing a lot of thinking over the next few weeks and decide what i want to do, even without thinking things can work with the man i'm really in love with.
Glad you could find an outlet here. It's hard when we have no one to talk to. I have wanted to have an affair with a man for months now and he came to town and we kissed and almost did, but backed out for a night to think. by the next night, he says he has decided to work on his marriage and use this as a wake up call, but in the mean time he still hung out with me for the next 2 evenings and commented on my appearance. when i confronted him feelings, he says he has feelings but needs to put them away but he stares at me longingly as he says this. so i know what you mean by even without the physical, you still feel like you are having an affair.
I think you have to go with your gut feeling. Life is short and though I understand what people mean when they say they made commitments, if your heart isn't there, then I think you owe it to the other person to fess up or move on. that's where i am right now. i'm doing a lot of thinking over the next few weeks and decide what i want to do, even without thinking things can work with the man i'm really in love with.
good luck!