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Registered: 11-08-2008
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Sat, 11-08-2008 - 9:44am

I just found this board and have read some posts which make me feel very happy that i am atlast at a place where i wont be judged.

My story is very long but i will keep it very short.I am a single mom to 2 teenage children,got divorced 6 years ago.long story there as well with lots of heartache and drama.I am in a A for a year now with a MM ( guess i am using the right abbreviations !) who also happens to be my boss.We started off as just being sexual ,as i was in need and he wanted to give.It was a no strings attached sex,when i needed,he gave and vice-versa.He has a W at home who is full of crap,have seen with my own eyes.Lots of examples like her coming to workplace one day and creating a scene, can hear her shouting on phone and all this was before we started getting off.
To be honest,i saw this and wanted to use him to fulfill my need.i had tried the dating seen but nothing worked and my urge was taking the best of me.He gave in to the first bite i threw.An unsigned agreement was signed!
After a year of all this,he wants to D his W and be with me.I dont want that.I never intended that to happen.He is not a husband material.not because he cheated with me but because i know he is abusive as well,not caring,not sensitive to his children,an uncaring father,a spend thrift and everyhting but not a man who i would love to see by my side.He is good looking outside but not inside ( except for the woderful di@k,forever yum...,he is an oldie but god dang ....)
I want to put him off now and dont know how to.I would love to continue the sex but nothing more.What is the best way?

All suggestions ,good and bad ,are welcome.Thanks in advance.Please dont lecture !

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Registered: 02-08-2008
In reply to: lovebaby2008
Sat, 11-08-2008 - 10:06am

lovebaby you won't be judged here, but I need to warn you that you will get a variety of opinions, some of which you won't like.

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Registered: 11-02-2008
In reply to: lovebaby2008
Sat, 11-08-2008 - 10:31am
Nothing helpful to add, but dang I'm jealous! Look at you, no emotional involvement after an entire year? That is amazing!
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Registered: 11-08-2008
In reply to: lovebaby2008
Sat, 11-08-2008 - 10:38am

thanks for your response.I am not scared .The problem is that i still want to use him with no strings and his leaving his W will leave him with nothing much,financially ,most important.I accept,that i did start him to believe that i had fallen for him ,my own reasons were my late night needs and some financial as well,in this downward economy.Last friday after a wild night( he is da@n good in bed,unbelievable for a man his age.Old in age but young between his legs,what a stamina! I am finding this part to let go the most difficult), we talked about me dating a recently divorced man and my MM got nasty.I cant leave my job,he gives me nice perks.I am stuck. The said 'rules'have to be broken but very tactfully that i dont lose the money i get from him,dont have to give up his body .

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-02-2008
In reply to: lovebaby2008
Sat, 11-08-2008 - 10:44am
I'm back, with something that may be helpful. You could buy yourself some time by telling him that if he does get D, he is going to need time on his own to sort through his feelings and work through it. And that is the honest truth. It may help to "hold him back" a little, kwim?
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Registered: 11-08-2008
In reply to: lovebaby2008
Sat, 11-08-2008 - 11:32am

Emotions?? I guess they are all in that maze of mine, LOL ! I was married but my H was the emotional one , bringing roses, washing the dishes when all i wanted was him to be in bed and stripping me off! He used to but not as often as i would want him to.I always had an eye for 'good stuff' and we pushed our M than it should have lasted.when i saw my MM in distress and saw his 'package', i thought my dreams had come true..someone who would fulfill my wild dreams.he did, and still does.Tonight when my boys are going on their dates,i am having mine.His W believes that he is off to other state for 2 days for work related issues.

Thanks for your advice.Any other advice welcome.I am in desperate need,lol!

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Registered: 10-22-2008
In reply to: lovebaby2008
Sun, 11-09-2008 - 1:52am
I'm having a little of trouble believing that this thread is real and not a troll.