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| Tue, 03-30-2004 - 1:33pm |
I am single woman who is involved with a MM. The problem is that he is not interested in me but I am always trying to get him involved in me. How do try and get to get him interested in me and respond to my flirtations? He sure does talk to me like a friend. Any help would be great. TIA

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If not... on behalf of MM everywhere...
LEAVE HIM ALONE!
We have enough problems and challenges dealing with life and deciding what we want and what to do and whether or not our own happiness supercedes that of those around us and in what conditions it does so.
Sorry if you're serious and I'm sounding harsh, but the last thing anyone needs is to be talked *out* of their marriage when they aren't really trying to leave or seeking anything else. As MM, we are capable of friendships, you know... maybe that is why he treates you like a friend. You say you're involved, but it sounds a lot like you're wishing you were involved. In which case, you haven't reached the "affair" level yet. You need to check for a different board.
rain
geez, I really hope you're joking.
if not, check into some other board (haven't looked, but I'd assume there's a "homewrecker" forum.) This one is for people dealing with affairs and the effects thereof, not people who just think it would be fun to snare someone else's partner into sex.
killfiled
Men are weak when it comes to women's advancements and if MM has stopped you please try to respect it. Not everyman or MM wants to cheat. And I am pretty sure if everything was perfect in my M and the other men's M we wouldn't of cheated either.
Respect his wishes and go after a single man.
I know that the unatainable makes it more wanting for some reason but do not go after either man.
Sorry i am not a phsycologist or anything it just seems this may be the case or maybe I read it somwhere.
I think I can speak for many people on this board when I say that most of us didn't just decide to come on to and get involved with people who have commitments elsewhere. In mine, we became friends over time and then one day it was like BAM for both of us and then the next thought was "oh god, what do we do now?"
While it is sexy and exciting, it is also painful and messy. While I am single and have no one to worry about hurting on my end, the doubts and guilt sometimes kill me. I can't even begin to imagine the doubts that MM has. (ALL THIS TURMOIL and the A is only 2 weeks old and hasn't gotten physical yet!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!)
I don't know if I am making any sense here, but I am just trying to show you that an A is not something to intentionally go out looking for. My advice to you would be to leave him (both hims) alone. If they have not responded to your advances then they do not want to cheat. I know it may not be what you want, and I am sorry, but relationships (whether physical, emotional or both) only work if both parties are interested. You can't force someone to be with you.
Good luck.
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