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Tue, 03-30-2004 - 1:33pm
I am single woman who is involved with a MM. The problem is that he is not interested in me but I am always trying to get him involved in me. How do try and get to get him interested in me and respond to my flirtations? He sure does talk to me like a friend. Any help would be great. TIA

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iVillage Member
Registered: 11-19-2003
In reply to: switch_and_bait
Tue, 03-30-2004 - 4:14pm
Girl, you need to get a life. If I am harsh, so be it. Find somebody whom you can call you own, who wnat and desires you as much you need him. Pasing it off as a commitment problem or something else is only dodging the problem and not facing it squarely. Only then you can change, bcoz part of the problem is recognizing that you have a problem!
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-14-2004
In reply to: switch_and_bait
Tue, 03-30-2004 - 4:16pm
OK...

(calm down Laurie)

(calm down Laurie)

OK...

Get off this board you predatory little B****...

OK...

I'm sorry, but you need to get a clue...

Those of us on this board are all trying to handle a VERY difficult situation with people we care about with all our hearts and souls...

You waltz in here thinking it's a GAME to try and entice these men...because you can?

As suspect as MY morals feel sometimes, YOU have none...

Why don't you go on an African Safari instead...the hunting there is more sporting...

Grrrrrrrrrrrr....

(restrain me before I say anything else, please...)

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-16-2003
In reply to: switch_and_bait
Tue, 03-30-2004 - 4:57pm
Honey, you really need to wake up to your problem. Its not good for you, plus its not good for the people whose life you are affecting by your actions. You can find somebody who will like you for who you are and find hapiness with him. Leave these men alone.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-30-2004
In reply to: switch_and_bait
Tue, 03-30-2004 - 7:34pm
I have a low self esteem that makes me do the things I do. I have always sought things I don't need and felt happy pursuing them. I feel I must put others down make myself happy. If I don't do all that, I try to get indignant and angry with people for pointing out my mistakes. All this due to my self-esteem problem. I know I must work on this and I taking steps to improve it. Thank you for all your input.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-16-2004
In reply to: switch_and_bait
Tue, 03-30-2004 - 9:11pm
ok from what I have read you have blamed this problem on a commitment thing and a self esteem problem. I'm sorry to say, hun, that is not it. You really need some help. You can't force someone into cheating on their spouse. So your best bet is to leave him alone.

Like I read in an earlier post none of us went looking for the affairs we are in. Get some help girl and leave the guy alone.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-19-2004
In reply to: switch_and_bait
Tue, 03-30-2004 - 10:35pm
Come on you guys (my affair posters) get it already!!!

Its sooo apparent switch and bait is probably somebody who hates you people and is using reverse psychology to detail some characteristics she thinks cheaters have!

Nice technique switch and bait but you got busted :)

PG

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-16-2003
In reply to: switch_and_bait
Wed, 03-31-2004 - 8:41am
Damn philly, I am shaking my head in agreement WITH YOU. I do see that she is "red herring" so as to speak. But you know what, I see a lot of posters like her here, so I don't know what to say anymore. I usually post to a post if I see that others post something to it, that way I am not the only idiot on the board. :oD
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-03-2004
In reply to: switch_and_bait
Wed, 03-31-2004 - 11:09am
Absolutely right, PG... I keep waiting for the other shoe to fall. If this isn't a sham then B&S is, well, BS. Come on.. she knows all the reasons why she does this crap but still wants to know if it's wrong. Pleeezzzeeee...
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-30-2004
In reply to: switch_and_bait
Thu, 04-01-2004 - 9:52am
I came here for support and look what I get. I am really telling the truth. I do have a problem and was wondering if I can find somebody else like me. Please don't say harsh words like other shoe falling.. :(
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-16-2003
In reply to: switch_and_bait
Thu, 04-01-2004 - 10:13am
Hey switch, go away will ya! We all know who turns your "switch" on... Hmmph

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