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| Sat, 03-27-2004 - 2:58pm |
I'm new here and I've read some post and realized I'm not alone. So, let me tell you my story. I had my first affair when I was 20 yrs old. At the time I was living with my high school sweetheart and his family. Things between us were a little rocky and he had told me I couldnt have male friends. I was working at a department store and started talking & flirting with the security guard. The security guard was married but that didn't stop him. I never thought it would progress past the flirting because I was just a big flirt. then one day he asked me to met him and I did. We just messed around the first time. It wasn't until the second time that we had sex and that was the only time. My BF found out about the affair and I changed jobs. Two months after the BF found out, the BF and I got married. We were married for seven years. During that seven year marriage the worst thing I did was flirt with guys at one. I stayed faithful the whole time, unlike the H. He had an affair while I was pregnant with our daughter. The stress from his affair caused me to go into labor at five months. We were lucky enough that I carried our daughter full term and that's only due to meds.
My marriage ended after seven bad years. At first I dated only single guys. Then a guy at work who was married started showing interest. He was HOT and I couldn't resist. We started our affair. It lasted a few months. It was a thrill to me being with a married man. The bad thing about this affair was he wasw married to an old friend of mine from H.S. We still talk but don't have time to get together.
My third affair was with my ex fiancee (he was before my H). This one start off as a cyber affair. He was married with two boys and lived in MS. Then he moved back to IN. He moved up here first and his family followed a few wks later. So his first wk back here he called me and I drove up to see him. As soon as I saw him all my feeling for him returned. Our affair has been off and on for two years now.
My current is affair is not with a married guy. The new guy has a lived in girlfriend. I met him when I was just starting out as a reserve cop. The first night I met him I was attracted to him. I also found out that first night that he was looking for someone on the side. I never imagined it would be me. At our department xmas party it all began. That night he was there even though he was not on our department. He could not keep his hands off me. A few days later he called my cell (which he got the number from my PD) and said he wanted to talk to me. So I met him and he apologized for the way he acted that night and I said there was no need to be sorry. From that night on we have been together. For about the first few wks all that happened is we would talk and mess around. Then finally one day he came over to the house and we let the messing around get carried away. Boy was the sex great. Well little did we know until about a month later. I got pregnant that day.When I found out I was pregnant and told him I thought he would end our affair. But he didn't he stayed around. But unfortantly at 6 wks I lost the baby. I thought then he would leave but no he is still here. The only problem we have ran into is the GF has found out. So now we are even more discrete about our relationship. She found out about me from looking at his cell phone bill and found my number. She harrassed me for about two wks then stopped. I have been trying to convince him to leave her. All they do is fight and he is constantly sick because of all of the stress. It gets so bad that he will leave me a message saying "well I guess your mad at me too." When I talk to him I always say I'm about the only female that isn't mad at you. Since she has found out about me by my phone number he now only calls when he's on duty from the PD or from fellow officers cell phones. Some of the other officers know about us and they cover his butt. Alot of them have told me that they are glad I am around because I make him happy and they all really like me.
My marriage ended after seven bad years. At first I dated only single guys. Then a guy at work who was married started showing interest. He was HOT and I couldn't resist. We started our affair. It lasted a few months. It was a thrill to me being with a married man. The bad thing about this affair was he wasw married to an old friend of mine from H.S. We still talk but don't have time to get together.
My third affair was with my ex fiancee (he was before my H). This one start off as a cyber affair. He was married with two boys and lived in MS. Then he moved back to IN. He moved up here first and his family followed a few wks later. So his first wk back here he called me and I drove up to see him. As soon as I saw him all my feeling for him returned. Our affair has been off and on for two years now.
My current is affair is not with a married guy. The new guy has a lived in girlfriend. I met him when I was just starting out as a reserve cop. The first night I met him I was attracted to him. I also found out that first night that he was looking for someone on the side. I never imagined it would be me. At our department xmas party it all began. That night he was there even though he was not on our department. He could not keep his hands off me. A few days later he called my cell (which he got the number from my PD) and said he wanted to talk to me. So I met him and he apologized for the way he acted that night and I said there was no need to be sorry. From that night on we have been together. For about the first few wks all that happened is we would talk and mess around. Then finally one day he came over to the house and we let the messing around get carried away. Boy was the sex great. Well little did we know until about a month later. I got pregnant that day.When I found out I was pregnant and told him I thought he would end our affair. But he didn't he stayed around. But unfortantly at 6 wks I lost the baby. I thought then he would leave but no he is still here. The only problem we have ran into is the GF has found out. So now we are even more discrete about our relationship. She found out about me from looking at his cell phone bill and found my number. She harrassed me for about two wks then stopped. I have been trying to convince him to leave her. All they do is fight and he is constantly sick because of all of the stress. It gets so bad that he will leave me a message saying "well I guess your mad at me too." When I talk to him I always say I'm about the only female that isn't mad at you. Since she has found out about me by my phone number he now only calls when he's on duty from the PD or from fellow officers cell phones. Some of the other officers know about us and they cover his butt. Alot of them have told me that they are glad I am around because I make him happy and they all really like me.
Now that I've posted this long post I hope I haven't bored you all. I am glad that I have a place to share my experiences with.
K

Welcome to the Board, Fire!
Thank-you for sharing your story with us. I know that the people here have been very supportive of me and they have a great sense of humor as well!
Hope things go well with you and your man. Be sure to keep us posted, ok?
Cazrida
Thank you for the welcome. I will keep you all up-to-date on how things are going with my man and I. I get to see him tonight because he's on duty. He called this morning at 5 am to ask me if I am coming out to see him and I told him of course. Hopefully tonight will be a repeat of last night because we had a good time laughing. It been a while since I've seen him in that great of a mood. Also I hope we get the chance to talk about me going with him out of town in a couple of weeks.
I look forward to talking to everyone on here.
fireEMTgirl