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Tue, 01-06-2004 - 1:31pm
I suppose you could say I'm the "Other Woman". I'm involved with a married man, though we haven't slept together yet. He was hired by my company over the summer and in the last few months, our relationship has gone from professional/friendly to so much more. We talk about everything! And he has the greatest sense of humor. I work in another state, so we rarely get to see each other, but it's like the distance isn't even there. We email all day and talk on the phone at least once or twice. I can't wait to get into work in the morning.

Right now, he says he's confused by what we have. He won't talk to me about his wife so I really don't know good or bad about her. I'm guessing she's not doing it for him, otherwise, why would he be talking to me, right? They've been married a long time, but no kids. I know she works for a big corporation and her job is pretty high-level, too, but other than that, I can't get him to open up to me about their life. I just wish I knew where he stood with her so I knew where I stood. Does that make sense?

Sorry if this is rambling, I'm just topsy turvy right now.

Lisa

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Registered: 03-30-2003
In reply to: secretlysmiling
Tue, 01-06-2004 - 1:41pm
Welcome Lisa, aka SS,

Sounds like you just got on the roller coaster. Well, honey, strap in and buckle up. You're in for a helluva ride. Are you married? Have you seen MM before? Will it make any difference if he's fat, bald, and short? Just kidding.

Welcome and give us the details!!

Luvin

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Registered: 04-03-2003
In reply to: secretlysmiling
Tue, 01-06-2004 - 1:42pm
Well from another "other woman" welcome! i think you will find good advice here, i know i have.

Jen

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Registered: 01-06-2004
In reply to: secretlysmiling
Tue, 01-06-2004 - 2:17pm
LOL! Yes, I've seen him and he's definitely attractive. He's your typical tall dark and handsome. We met during his interview phase. The President of the company was wining and dining him and some of the management team was along for a lot of that. We spent 3 days together off and on and really connected. He's definitely not the affair type, and maybe that's what makes him so irresistable. He's just such a nice guy.

I'm single. Maybe it would be easier if I were married, because then I wouldn't hope for more. The President talks about relocating him up to this office eventually, which would really be wonderful. Thanks for the welcome!

Lisa

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: secretlysmiling
Tue, 01-06-2004 - 2:26pm
hi ss and welcome to our board. as luvin says, buckle up and hold on girl!

i'm not a fan of having an A with someone you work with since i've seen sooooo many explode all over the workplace (thank god, not me though!). obviously you've made a connection with MM. don't push him about information on his W or M. if he's not comfortable talking about it, leave it alone.

MM emails and chats with you because you're NOT his W, you are his extra, on-the-side fun time. no responsibilities, no nagging, no mortgage, just pure fun. keep it that way and enjoy the time you have with him. if he gets relocated, all the better. but in the meantime, flirt, chat, and enjoy. don't overthink this R. it's just not worth the effort.

gurl