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Registered: 08-21-2003
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Thu, 08-21-2003 - 4:56pm
I never thought I'd find myself in this kind of a situation. I have been having an A with a MM from work. Our meetings have been sporadic, but have become more frequent. I've tried to stop seeing him, but I'm having a really hard time getting him out of my mind. Especially because I see him at work occassionally. If anyone ever caught us I'm sure I'd be fired because he's an officer in the company. I haven't been with him in 3 weeks because we've both been busy, but I'm about to lose my mind. I'm thinking about marching into his office right now to see if he'll make plans to see me tonight. I don't want to be the one to pursue this, but I can't help it. I don't think I'm in love with him, but more in love with the secret relationship (well, and great sex)!

I'm really glad I'm not alone in this.

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Registered: 03-29-2003
In reply to: sher0476
Thu, 08-21-2003 - 8:26pm
Welcome to the board Sher:)

I know you don't want to

pursue him, but perhaps he's

waiting for a little sign from

you? I don't know! You know, I

never really thought I'd actually

have an A on my H, but I did

think of it often... Are you married

or single? Anyways, welcome:) ~passion
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Registered: 08-21-2003
In reply to: sher0476
Thu, 08-21-2003 - 11:16pm
Thanks Passion :) You might be right. I called him today because we've been missing each other lately since we've had pretty tight schedules. We played telephone tag and I left him a message letting him know I'd like to see him. So, we'll see. I know he has a busy day tomorrow, but hopefully we can connect up again soon.

I'm single, but he's been married for 15 years. He said he's been "bad" before, but never anything like this.

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Registered: 07-22-2003
In reply to: sher0476
Thu, 08-21-2003 - 11:59pm


Hey Sher, glad you found us. I'm also having an A with a MM who's a co-worker. BE CARFULE! We have only be at this a month or so, and we already have the whole workplace talking, speculating, and gossiping. OMG, they have called in two people to the Managers office and HR has been called. I have just seperated from my H and MM is in the process of the same. He is not really concerned with people finding out and I just can't get enought of him so we have made some not so smart choices as far as showing affection for each other at work. When this dose come out,( and it's going to because we want to be together )he will have to step down a position or transfer to another location. I hope the first one because I would hate to not see him everyday at work. Sooo, moral of the story, they always say the #1 thing to NOT do is fall for someone at work... certain people live for this type of stuff to gossip about, but I would'nt change a thing personally.

AKA

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: sher0476
Fri, 08-22-2003 - 6:41am
Hi Sher,

Is great sex worth your job? Of what you posted, that would be my concern. You can find great sex in other places and with other people, but how important is your job to you? What are your options if you lose it?

Just be careful - for yourself.

-lily

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Registered: 08-21-2003
In reply to: sher0476
Fri, 08-22-2003 - 12:51pm
Thanks for the warning. We've been being very cautious around the workplace. I don't call his office or stop by anymore so his assistant doesn't start to suspect something. When we pass each other in the elevators or on other floors we keep it professional. My concern is that someone might see how my eyes light up when he walks in the room. This is not worth losing my job over, but I am going to continue to see him...

We're getting together later this afternoon....