new here with a ? about falling in love

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Registered: 04-06-2004
new here with a ? about falling in love
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Tue, 04-06-2004 - 8:01pm
I have been lurking for a while and finally decided to post with a question. I have been seeing my MM for almost two years now, and have fallen in love with him. I haven't told him this and I'm afraid of his reaction. I once told him I had feelings for him and his response was "do I need to remind you I'm married?" We are close friends, he has helped me emotionally and financially. Several months ago I messed up and went to his house and told his wife who I was. He managed to explain it away and they are still together. after I did that, he still continues to see me. Am I wrong to assume that means he cares about me too? I don't know what to do with my feelings, I've tried to get him out of my heart so many times, but I can't. Should I tell him I love him? Does his taking me back after what I did mean he really cares about me, too? Sorry I'm rambling, I don't really have that many people to talk about this, and the ones I can talk to aren't supportive of this relationship. Any advice?

B's bbunny

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Registered: 03-29-2004
Tue, 04-06-2004 - 10:19pm
I don't have much advice as I am in a fairly "new" affair for the first time, but it sounds like he wants just sex from you. He's helped you emotionally because that's the price he has to pay for sex. If he reacted that negatively to you just saying that you had "feelings" towards him, then there's your answer. How far into the relationship were you when you said you had "feelings"?
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Registered: 04-06-2004
Wed, 04-07-2004 - 7:29am
I told him that after a year and a half, I thought I was doing well controlling my emotions about it all.

B's bbunny