New here & CRAZY!!

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-23-2009
New here & CRAZY!!
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Wed, 09-23-2009 - 1:45pm

I'm married (8yrs), we have 2 children (under 5).

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iVillage Member
Registered: 09-18-2009
Wed, 09-23-2009 - 2:26pm

First, I admire your forthright openness on your post.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-23-2009
Wed, 09-23-2009 - 3:04pm

Sex has nothing to do with my issues with my husband.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-18-2009
Wed, 09-23-2009 - 4:17pm

My view is that "staying together for the children" is not the best way having a marriage.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-23-2009
Wed, 09-23-2009 - 4:39pm

I don't think staying for the children is good for them either.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-18-2009
Wed, 09-23-2009 - 6:53pm

I felt lucky.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-09-2009
Wed, 09-23-2009 - 9:00pm

I think you should give your H the heads up on what you like to do in bed. How can he satisfy you if he has no idea what you like? Its not fair to him that you are too scared to tell him what you like. It must not be much of a M if you would rather leave him than let him know what turns you on.

If your H finds your bedroom needs not to his taste and will not comply with your requests, at least then he has been given the opportunity to fix one part of the M.

I cant remember the exact quote, but the Fab Dr Phil says (to paraphrase) that when $ex is bad, that spills over into every facet of the R. Couples with a good SL have a higher rate of being able to work out the mundane and other related issues better than couples that are lacking in the bedroom.

As to his annoying behavior, have you tried MC?

Que Sera Sera - Whatever will be, will be.
Que Sera Sera - Whatever will be, will be.
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-29-2008
Wed, 09-23-2009 - 9:51pm

I can relate to you in a lot of ways.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-18-2009
Thu, 09-24-2009 - 2:38am

scarletb,
I am curious what happened during your affair while you were married (I assume you are no longer married now)?

Now where are you now? with a dominate mate? Or...?

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-23-2009
Thu, 09-24-2009 - 10:05am

My H is aware of some things I like, I would like to explore further though.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-18-2009
Thu, 09-24-2009 - 12:30pm

I don't think marriage counseling is the answer to all marriage problems.

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