I think you should give your H the heads up on what you like to do in bed. How can he satisfy you if he has no idea what you like? Its not fair to him that you are too scared to tell him what you like. It must not be much of a M if you would rather leave him than let him know what turns you on.
If your H finds your bedroom needs not to his taste and will not comply with your requests, at least then he has been given the opportunity to fix one part of the M.
I cant remember the exact quote, but the Fab Dr Phil says (to paraphrase) that when $ex is bad, that spills over into every facet of the R. Couples with a good SL have a higher rate of being able to work out the mundane and other related issues better than couples that are lacking in the bedroom.
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First, I admire your forthright openness on your post.
Sex has nothing to do with my issues with my husband.
My view is that "staying together for the children" is not the best way having a marriage.
I don't think staying for the children is good for them either.
I felt lucky.
I think you should give your H the heads up on what you like to do in bed. How can he satisfy you if he has no idea what you like? Its not fair to him that you are too scared to tell him what you like. It must not be much of a M if you would rather leave him than let him know what turns you on.
If your H finds your bedroom needs not to his taste and will not comply with your requests, at least then he has been given the opportunity to fix one part of the M.
I cant remember the exact quote, but the Fab Dr Phil says (to paraphrase) that when $ex is bad, that spills over into every facet of the R. Couples with a good SL have a higher rate of being able to work out the mundane and other related issues better than couples that are lacking in the bedroom.
As to his annoying behavior, have you tried MC?
I can relate to you in a lot of ways.
scarletb,
I am curious what happened during your affair while you were married (I assume you are no longer married now)?
Now where are you now? with a dominate mate? Or...?
My H is aware of some things I like, I would like to explore further though.
I don't think marriage counseling is the answer to all marriage problems.
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