New here... going out of my mind!

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Registered: 03-07-2009
New here... going out of my mind!
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Sat, 03-07-2009 - 8:07pm

I'm very nervous to post, but I'm going crazy and feel

maystone

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Registered: 03-07-2009
Tue, 03-24-2009 - 11:41pm

hopefull... all assumptions on your part.

maystone
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Registered: 12-06-2007
Wed, 03-25-2009 - 6:49am

Oh okay, I see.

 

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Registered: 03-17-2009
Wed, 03-25-2009 - 9:32am

Maystone,


OK, I guess I can just wish you well on your journey.


You stated I

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Registered: 09-19-2008
Wed, 03-25-2009 - 9:42am
Being a single female ap in an affair with a mm is the toughest place to be. This is where she needed help. It seems she was not getting it.
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Registered: 11-12-2008
Wed, 03-25-2009 - 9:56am

Not trying to hijack and not even wanting to go into debate.

What if all she needs is emotional connection with a man? what if thats what her basic need is? she cant fulfill that need herself or 'find within herself'?? Same is applicable to men.Agreed that happiness comes from within, should be able to live alone,enjoy ones own company etc.etc.BUT ,if that was so, all the people should be living alone,no need for relationships!
I have come across men who too have emotional needs and dont hesitate to say so.Relationships are a need ,agree or not.Its not that something is missing in oneself and thats why we go into relationships.I guess people here just want others to go find happiness within themselves and not go into relationships.thats absurd.Even 'normal' relationships can be lonely ,painful,sad,abusive ..the list is endless.

One finds themselevs in A's and even though it may not be ideal but which R is?? except of course,with oneself.

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Registered: 09-28-2006
Wed, 03-25-2009 - 10:56am

May,


Hi.


Your post is a loud and clear call for help.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-17-2009
Wed, 03-25-2009 - 11:01am

I see.

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Registered: 09-19-2008
Wed, 03-25-2009 - 11:22am
She is in a very tough painful spot. I have kind of been where she is, only difference is ap and i are both married. The pain is still as great at times.i can relate to her pain because my situation was, is somewhat very similar. I run to help with a lot of my pain. The advice i give should she choose to stay in her affair is running, friends, family, and even work.
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Registered: 03-17-2009
Wed, 03-25-2009 - 12:12pm

Why be in a situation that causes a lot of pain?

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-19-2008
Wed, 03-25-2009 - 12:49pm
Hey have fun, i envy you. I miss him alot, that is where a lot of my pain comes from. Right now i cant give him up. He is offering me a lot of support right now with a bad time in my life and also his.

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