New here not sure what to think
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New here not sure what to think
| Thu, 04-01-2004 - 12:42pm |
Ok...i feel really weird about being on this board...especially since i have spent many of the last months on the other end of the affair...anyhow...i think i am starting to have one myself though...and not sure what to do or who to talk about it to...my husband and i have been married for 7 years...most of them unhappy...last year HE had an affair with a coworker...we seperated...but since then got back together...or marriage has never been great...and some days im not sure why i went back...but i did...he has had internet affairs and long distance relationships with severl women...but last year was the first it got physicial...and close to home...
I hated him for it...still do most times...but now i find myself kinda understanding why...
There is this guy that i work with...he is kind...understanding...funny...we talk for hours...and really enjoy eachothers company...pretty much everything i DONT have at home...we have not been intimate in any way...not even a kiss...but i find the need or should i say...want...growing every day...I never thought i would find myself in this position...especially not after what this year brought me...but yet here i am...the thing is...he wants to see me tonight...we have gone out several times with eachother...after work...and just to hang out...bars or whatever...but tonight he wants me to come over to his house...bars are one thing...but alone in a room...is another...i really want to see him...but am not sure of what would happen...but what bothers me most...is i dont really care what happends...he makes me feel wanted...he tells me im pretty...talks to me...and makes me feel like there is another person on this earth who might actually want me...and im not stuck with my husband...i know this doesnt make much sence hell it doesnt to me either...i am just kinda confused and not sure what im looking for right now...uhg...maybe someone can help me(if thats possible)
I hated him for it...still do most times...but now i find myself kinda understanding why...
There is this guy that i work with...he is kind...understanding...funny...we talk for hours...and really enjoy eachothers company...pretty much everything i DONT have at home...we have not been intimate in any way...not even a kiss...but i find the need or should i say...want...growing every day...I never thought i would find myself in this position...especially not after what this year brought me...but yet here i am...the thing is...he wants to see me tonight...we have gone out several times with eachother...after work...and just to hang out...bars or whatever...but tonight he wants me to come over to his house...bars are one thing...but alone in a room...is another...i really want to see him...but am not sure of what would happen...but what bothers me most...is i dont really care what happends...he makes me feel wanted...he tells me im pretty...talks to me...and makes me feel like there is another person on this earth who might actually want me...and im not stuck with my husband...i know this doesnt make much sence hell it doesnt to me either...i am just kinda confused and not sure what im looking for right now...uhg...maybe someone can help me(if thats possible)

I think most of us enter affairs because of something lacking in the relationship with our spouses but that doesn't make our spouse a bad person (except maybe in your case). I know I love my husband but I love the OM also. When we got involved we were both married and now he and his W have split and I have to deal with the fact that he's dating. It's a very emotionally draining experience. So think carefully about your decision and make the right one for yourself based on your needs. Then leave your cheating husband and give yourself a chance!
My mother in her infinite wisdom said "You can correct anything in a relationship except for indifference. When you become indifferent to a situation there is no going back."
elf