New here too, Glad I found you!

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Registered: 03-30-2004
New here too, Glad I found you!
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Mon, 04-12-2004 - 7:54pm

Hello all,


I am new to the board, though I have been lurking around lately. I have a problem and I just don't know how to handle it. I am married, three years next month. Husband and I have always had some problems, nothing out of the ordinary. Money, housework, kids, but we fought alot.


I met a friend at work and that is what we were for a long time. He actually dated my friend right after she got divorced. Things didn't work out between them ( he was rebound) and she moved on. I became pregnant last year, and OM and I got to be close friends. We always talked about his relationship, and I would go to him for advice when DH and I would fight. I knew that I had a little crush on him but didn't hink much of it.


So, I have my DS and was on maternity leave. When I came back to work in december, things started to get intense. He just touched me on the shoulder once and I felt that electrical feeling that you get when you have really intense feelings for someone.


We started to talk one day and he made the comment that it was to bad that I was happly married.

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-30-2003
Mon, 04-12-2004 - 10:26pm
I understand how you feel. My M is good but not perfect. I have a baby the same age as you. My MM has one 4 months old. Neither one of us ever expectes this. We actually dated before I met my husband and I chose my H. We have had an emotional A for about a year and a half. In that time we have seen each other 4 times and have only kissed. We both agreed that being intimate may be too much to handle. I normally keep it in check but this past week I have been thinkign about him constantly. Maybe it is b/c my H is away or b/c there is a cnce I will see him this week, the first time in 9 months. Anyway, I guess you have to decide if you can keep it in check. If you want to maintain your life and your sanity you have to be able to keep it together. You and your OM have to decide what you both want. My MM and i know we will NEVER leave our spouses. We have set boundaries and ground rules so not to hurt the other person. This is what it is as i said soemtimes it fits in see him or wonder what life would be like together etc. Think about what you want from this. Maybe it is just for fun or excitement but try to estabiush that first before talking to your OM. Good luck!
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-16-2004
Tue, 04-13-2004 - 11:21am
Welcome to our home...er...I mean board (it feels like home, though).

Just a bit of advice...you may want to fix your signature...don't give away too much personal information. You never know who is lurking and reading the posts.

Glad you are here!