New Here, What Am I Doing?

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Registered: 02-14-2010
New Here, What Am I Doing?
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Sun, 02-14-2010 - 10:10am

I really don't know where to start with all of this.

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Registered: 10-03-2009
Sun, 02-14-2010 - 1:33pm

your instincts are 100% correct, he's lying to you to get what he wants, no surprise there. If he said " I am bored with my wife and am a very selfish guy and want something new and exciting for a play thing and guess what, you'll fit the bill since you seem to get enough at home and are horny enough to want even more!", how many BJs would he get out of it? he knows that if he plays the "unattended and victimized" hubby card, he'll get some fun favors from you whenever he wants, which he did.

what would happen if your husband found out?

i think you already know that you are being taken advantage of, and that the thrills of the situation are not worth risking what you have for real in your marriage, that many out there do not have. i think you seem to have enough self worth and respect to end this and make him see that you are no fool. as for his wife, it is a great shame, since, once you close the door on him, he will move on to some other target, again playing the poor husband card, all the while ignoring his wife at home since he is just so bored with her and she's not worth her attentions.

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Registered: 02-14-2010
Sun, 02-14-2010 - 3:15pm

Nevereasy...thank you!!


Not that this matters, but have they both said in front of other people that they don't have sex that often.

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Registered: 02-06-2010
Sun, 02-14-2010 - 3:33pm

Do some men think that they aren't cheating if intercourse isn't involved?

when one does not love too much, one does not love enough --blaise pascal
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Registered: 12-03-2009
Mon, 02-15-2010 - 12:20pm

wow.

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Registered: 10-10-2008
Mon, 02-15-2010 - 1:14pm
IMAO: He is not lying. She is. When a person says they don't like sex believe them! The biggest problem is that over time their partner turns off to them. Later those feeling may have resolved themselves and that person who did not like sex is now feeling sexual. The damage though has already been done. Reprogramming is not easy. My take is that you ask questions of her if you feel confused. You could start with "but you said you did not like sex so what's going on?"
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Registered: 10-03-2009
Mon, 02-15-2010 - 9:00pm

wow..that's harsh!!.. true but harsh..


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